what do I do. Kid isn't mine.

[booty]

that is the right thing to do isn't it. I know it is fo my mental health. Its just super hard this happene  today. So all I can think of is past yr with this fuckin kid. All the pictures all over the house of us my phone full of pics man. Like wtf. How ca wome do this. I am so totally lifeless. Heart broken bout this kid I thought was mine n heart broken reading a email of how madly in love she was with her ex n how he was her one n true only love.

That's devastating.    
I think everyones given good advice.  She has lied to you about being the father of her child and she has told the ex that he is her true love....truely hurtful and devastating.  I think she will keep hurting you and will continue to do this type of behaviour.  You already said that you caught her lying to you earlier on a couple of years ago.  She was given a chance back then to be faithful and loyal and instead she went and got pregnant with her ex.  To save yourself further pain, it's best to leave her.  You can't keep getting deceived by her and also reading the words that her ex is her true love would be too hurtful for me to ever consider taking a man back if he were to do that to me. 

[Schmoe Buster]

that is the right thing to do isn't it. I know it is fo my mental health. Its just super hard this happene  today. So all I can think of is past yr with this fuckin kid. All the pictures all over the house of us my phone full of pics man. Like wtf. How ca wome do this. I am so totally lifeless. Heart broken bout this kid I thought was mine n heart broken reading a email of how madly in love she was with her ex n how he was her one n true only love.

Whatever you do not read anymore of those emails, reading more of that will do your head in and make you crazy, you need to get out, none of this is your fault, you are a victim, also the little boy, a victim of your gf, she must be punished by society and her peers, let it be known its her doing.
Get away ASAP and just busy yourself with something that takes your mind off things, hobbies,gym, reading getbig, hanging out with friends.

[titusisback]

Get out asap. You'll "win" only in fairy land scenario which is unlikely to happen, even though your heart may say otherwise. Tell the bitch you can be a father figure for the kid if she wants. I can guarantee once you're outta door, she'll manipulate the biological dad just like she's manipulating you, or find a new step daddy.

[lyquid]

thanks guys way to many replies to reply to each one. Rly appreaciate the care.

thank god for best friends. We were having a normal day out at mall. My best friend txt me saying he's talkin to her ex on computer. N the ex is telling him shit. Bout my gf. Cause he didn't want her emailing him. He's got a kid otw himself. N he says he was scared of me beating him up or my best friend lol.

so at first my best friend didn't believe him. Got him to give his email n password to him LOL. He does n he gives me it. N bam there you have it her undying love. True n only love EVER she says tonnes of shit to break anyones heart.

she denys it says not her email acct. (was a fake secret one) obv I do not let this down same shit as before with same guy. I persist  same lying bullshit n she breaks down n signs into the fak email to show me its rly her.

saying how kids his as well.

at first I was golden. I was all ok. I'm fine I said I'd leave her before if she did it again. N all rdy to leave. But I'm sure you all know when a girl is crying n begging its hard to say no. So now I'm here obv still. All I can say is give me ime to think. And as I'm thinking all nite here its so hard to leave guys. I lived a fucking life short life. With  a family thought to be mine.

I know I rly do have to don't I? She's did it twice. N shell do it again won't she. She rly will right. She's never cheated physically. He lives far away now annyways. She's always open I know all her passwords always see her phone. But go figure for this one guy always emotionally cheats n it hurts bad.

I just don't get why all nite she Is still tellin me she l never msg him again n rly only loves me n wants me. Saying shell go get my name tattoo on her tomorrow lol. I have to leave tho you all said it. Shell just make me worthless i n the end mentally I think. If when I go. I think I should make her get the tattoo and when its done walk out n say cya? Lol

assest isn't a worry at the moment. Bank accounts separate obv we are both young in our 20s so we don't have anything but a car.  Even so I don't care about it.

I started to take the cash we keep in here n leave a few hundred since it was all my cash anyways.. So I did n hide it. But than I start thinking wtf man.... This kid I can't do that so I start putting back alot of it...

like wtf this blows.. She does work but I feel I'd need to leave something for the kid n a fair bit. Although the whore will prob just find a new guy to take care of her lol.

but you all agree I have to leave right?

I mean I want my own family. A wife that'd never cheat on me n love me truly  . Sucks cause part of me feels like its still my family. But if the ex wud of said sure ill take you back obv she prob wudda been in his bed n eventually leaving.

what do you think. Upright rows like suggested n treat myself to 10iu gh a day? Lol that's bout only thing I can think of to make me happy

[gh15]

duno how to handle this. Anyone else ever deal with it. Finding out there kid isn't there's.

she didn't tell me. I had to find out. She was still emailing her ex telling him she loves him n always have always will.i knew time frames always didn't match up when she got preganant. Finally I find truth in a secret email.

wtf do I do. Kid is 1 yrs old. After I found out I broke her down she admitted everything. But now tells me she doesn't love him n loves me n doesn't want me to leave. I'm confused cause she is going crazy trying to make sure I won't leave her. So it seems she does love. Obv she's promising to never talk to him again like before.... I caught her almost 2 yrs ago before emailing n txting him telling him she loves him n still wants to be with him.

so its twice now I been emotionally cheated on n this times even more fucked up.

wtf do I do. I dunom all there's pictures of me holding this kid... Wtf....  She keeps telling me she wants me to be her farther n be with her...

what do I do.

listen to me friend,, you are dealing with a whore,, that doenst make kid a whore,,  why do i say a whore ....for only a whore wont tell you you are not the dada of kido,, only a whore will keep it secret ,, only very very low level generation nothignness kredishian reality tv balonie  will do this ,, she is living in a very bad era but she will NEVER be yours,, you are just there for whatever,, she can say whatever she want,, IF SHE DID NOT SAY KIDO IS NOT YOURS TO BEGIN WITH ,, if she had a kid from antoher fella and hide it that mean she fuck on the side ,, that mean she does many thing you will never know ,,

the kido is a diff story but! it is 1 year old! you will never be rememberd if you left now,, if you wait few more years you wil be remembered,,

remember! you live once! you want to liev it with good decent girl not with some whore that wont tell you the truth and this is the closest fella to her YOU! suposdly ...

get away find aaway out ,, and it is holidays and all ,, but unless she colapse and basicaly beg you to stay ...you need to live even if she beg you to stay you need to make sure she know that you give her no money ,, its half and half and she BETRAY YOU! 99 out of 100 cases of the such end up bad only take longer time to realize it ,, get away now 1 year old kido wont remember a damn thing

gh15 approved

[lyquid]

thanks gh15 I respect you alot you brought truth to me eyes of bbing. And you are a good guy from everything I read about kids to dogs n even you think I should leave.

and boy thanks to guy telling me not to read the emails there is only 2 but I read em to see if I missed anything I can get more pissed about... N boy same shit. Love you always n will forever. Only person I've ever been in love with all this crap man like a a novel of it. Sickening to think she did this n I gotta cry like a fool in the living room. Man n to think for past few hrs I'm actually thinking of staying... Wow I am a retard eh? I got fooled good. A girl that tells me how amazing I am so good in bed so this n that all the time... Made me totally believe I was the one for her. Fuck I don't wanna be so stupid n stay.

I have to leave. Honestly does it matter when I leave? Will I get trapped if I stay any longer than a few days ? Shud I get out right away? I think ill be suckered into the I love yous and crap if I stay any longer

listen to me friend,, you are dealing with a whore,, that doenst make kid a whore,,  why do i say a whore ....for only a whore wont tell you you are not the dada of kido,, only a whore will keep it secret ,, only very very low level generation nothignness kredishian reality tv balonie  will do this ,, she is living in a very bad era but she will NEVER be yours,, you are just there for whatever,, she can say whatever she want,, IF SHE DID NOT SAY KIDO IS NOT YOURS TO BEGIN WITH ,, if she had a kid from antoher fella and hide it that mean she fuck on the side ,, that mean she does many thing you will never know ,,

the kido is a diff story but! it is 1 year old! you will never be rememberd if you left now,, if you wait few more years you wil be remembered,,

remember! you live once! you want to liev it with good decent girl not with some whore that wont tell you the truth and this is the closest fella to her YOU! suposdly ...

get away find aaway out ,, and it is holidays and all ,, but unless she colapse and basicaly beg you to stay ...you need to live even if she beg you to stay you need to make sure she know that you give her no money ,, its half and half and she BETRAY YOU! 99 out of 100 cases of the such end up bad only take longer time to realize it ,, get away now 1 year old kido wont remember a damn thing

gh15 approved

[chess315]

 Tough situation its a lot easier to say get the hell out on paper but in real life it can be harder.  I assume your fairly young that makes it even more hard because at that age you still kinda want to think the worlds a nice place and people do the right thing. I'm sure what ever choice you make it will be the right one.  Life is funny its kinda roll the dice as long as you dont land in prison or dead you have another roll.    
 Maybe the girl is not so much bad we all fall for people in are life we cant let go. No matter if your a whore or muscleman or what there is always that one person that you wish you had that you lost. It is hard to leave a stituation like that its much easier to tell someone to do it.

[gh15]

it all depend how hot the girl is,, if she is very hot she will find someone to leech on ,, many felas around that are golible and bored and young and just want to be around girl and will do whatever so she can be with them ,, if she is not that hot....and has milage on her then its diff story ,, i dont knwo the deal here ,, all i knwo is that lie liek this is major ,, this is something big ,, the only way a girl can pull this is if she is REALY GOOD LOOKIGN AND HOT,, but you egt use to looks,, you need HEART look fade,, you need someone that when you grow old with wil take care of you if you are sick and not throw you in some old people house of the govrmnet or i dont know what,, you need to be able to count on her! remember LOOK FADE! always apreciate the bodybuild days because LOOK FADE,, in the end we all become geezers,,you need good girl ,, she can be hto too there are good looking girls that are hot,, someone with no kid that can give you your own kid or maybe adopt a kid together,, you dont need some liar filt that will try to pull such thing on you ,, this is the lowest of the low,, its not like murdering but it is betryal,, it is big betrayal

she will try to make you stay big time,, it very easy to fall for it for it is a frame that you wil feel bad with out only becaue of attachment to the kid and to her,, but...always remember it is from another fella...and a girl that does it do not DO NOT have morals ,, she could tell you many times chose not to ,, she traped you ,,

it all shoudl depend on how sincere is her love if she even love you ,, i dont think someone like this can love you ,, but you should be able to know this ,, and in this time MAKE SURE YOU LISTEN TO YOUR MAMA she will let you know whats good for you in this case,, mama ,, sister,,someone blood related that is close to you ,, brother...

gh15 approved

[SmallPole]

sry i had to

[diamondcut]

leave the woman and give that child one last kiss on the forehead late at night and just leave

don't give her any word

just go, and don't come back to her ever

a zebra can't change it's stripes

[Spicoli]

Stand up for yourself. Stand up for your future.
Walk away. Never look back!
She has fucked you now{The ultimate FUCK}shame on her.
If you allow her to fuck you twice. Shame on you{You deserve it!}
Good luck...... mastering your emotions.

[20inch calves]

yeah i agree with everyone else. i would leave. the kid won;t remember you and hopefully for the kid she will change her ways and settle down with a nice guy that will be a good dad. but for you..if you stay.. you will get no respect and more of the same because of it

[chess315]

there is always option 3:

 take all your money go one a 3 week banging 18-20 yo old spree and then go back and say were even lets move on and forget the past

[20inch calves]

man leave now. if you are renting (and the place is in her name)i would pay a months rent because of the kid and get out. if its in your name evict her ASAP..or just sit down and talk to her..trying to get her to leave without the eviction

also if you are doing anything illegal..steriods ect. get them out of the place. if you leave or make her leave she will not be happy. she could easily call the police and turn you in..happened to a buddy of mine

in any case this is a lose lose situation if you stay

[Parker]

Get a DNA test, for all you know, she could be playing the other dude as well.

[ironneck]

Haha cant bdlieve what some if u are sayin
a turk would kill that whoreand turkish judge would say nice one brother she does not deserve to live

[Spicoli]

Proof of castration at birth!!!
No self esteem!!!
Grow a sack!!!

there is always option 3:

 take all your money go one a 3 week banging 18-20 yo old spree and then go back and say were even lets move on and forget the past

Yea that`ll show her!!! Did you graduate jr high?

[Raymondo]

Mate, to be honest, it looks like you love her and you overlooked a few things you knew from the start in order to have this family thing with her. I can't believe that a woman managed to pull the wool over your eyes like this. You had to have known that something was going on. You are somewhat complicit in all this, you had your suspicions all along. You wrote it yourself, you knew that the pregnancy period was off. What did you do about it back then? Did you not question her?

You should have broken her in from the start, put the pressure on her to come clean about her ex and then force her to choose- and this kid business happened far too fast, don't you think you should know someone for a good few years before you take such a drastic step?

[Vince B]

Something isn't right here. Lyquid doesn't believe her when she says she loves him yet he believes her when she said that to her ex in emails, etc. How does he know what she feels?

The point is her feelings are irrelevant. He isn't leaving even with all the advice to do so. Why? Because he has feelings for her and he finally has her saying what he so desperately wants to feel. That someone loves him so much they will beg him to stay. Sounds like our hero needs a gal who needs him. That is called co-dependence. Nothing to be ashamed of but it bonds people to each other that really shouldn't be together. Sometimes that is as good as it gets. Like, where is he going to go and what is he going to do? It is always good to have a backup!

He isn't going anywhere.

[newmom]

Not sure where you live, but you can file your own legalities in court.

First, get a DNA test. All you need to do is prove wether you are or not the father to the baby. If your not the dad, you can file to have the name removed from the birth certificate. I would find out through the court system if their certain places to use, for paternity tests, which are admissible.

If not, petition the court to have your name removed.

If you are the father, file joint, sole, or whatever type of custody you want. NO need to spend money on lawyers, it's plain and simple. If you go this route, tread lightly about anything public, emails, texts, etc. you do. Don't bash mommy or anything else.

I hope all works out well for you, but if the child is yours or not, the girlfriend has to go.

[tu_holmes]

Do what everyone else has already said... Shore up the finances... Get her away from your money.

Then fucking walk away and don't EVER think twice about her or the kid.

[Dr Dutch]

Stand up for yourself. Stand up for your future.
Walk away. Never look back!
She has fucked you now{The ultimate FUCK}shame on her.
If you allow her to fuck you twice. Shame on you{You deserve it!}Good luck...... mastering your emotions.

I was just about to post this.....

[Xerxes]

Not sure where you live, but you can file your own legalities in court.

First, get a DNA test. All you need to do is prove wether you are or not the father to the baby. If your not the dad, you can file to have the name removed from the birth certificate. I would find out through the court system if their certain places to use, for paternity tests, which are admissible.

He's already told us the kid isn't his.

GET THE FUCK OUT OF THIS SITUATION NOW

[newmom]

He's already told us the kid isn't his.

GET THE FUCK OUT OF THIS SITUATION NOW

I understand that but I think for legality and monetary reasons, it should be documented (not by email or just her say so) by a paternity test. He needs to cover his ass. Eventually (99%) it will come up down the road who is or isn't the father. Save the aggravation now. If it proves he is the father he has all and every legal right to the child.

[wes]

duno how to handle this. Anyone else ever deal with it. Finding out there kid isn't there's.

she didn't tell me. I had to find out. She was still emailing her ex telling him she loves him n always have always will.i knew time frames always didn't match up when she got preganant. Finally I find truth in a secret email.

wtf do I do. Kid is 1 yrs old. After I found out I broke her down she admitted everything. But now tells me she doesn't love him n loves me n doesn't want me to leave. I'm confused cause she is going crazy trying to make sure I won't leave her. So it seems she does love. Obv she's promising to never talk to him again like before.... I caught her almost 2 yrs ago before emailing n txting him telling him she loves him n still wants to be with him.

so its twice now I been emotionally cheated on n this times even more fucked up.

wtf do I do. I dunom all there's pictures of me holding this kid... Wtf....  She keeps telling me she wants me to be her farther n be with her...

what do I do.

Get out now,see the kid as often as possible if possible.

This broads a liar and not gonna` do you any good.