Author Topic: polyamory - 3 person relationship... thinking of trying it (Read 59102 times)

lulu · « **Reply #250 on:** February 12, 2013, 07:47:28 AM »

Quote from: tu_holmes on February 12, 2013, 07:43:30 AM

I can't imagine hating anyone over a message board.

I just think he should be honest with everyone and admit it's not polyamory he is about, but 3 way sex with a male and a female because he's bi-sexual.

There's nothing wrong with that, but using the term polyamory is just disingenuous.

he says he loves everyone , the issue lies with him not knowing what love is

tbombz · « **Reply #251 on:** February 12, 2013, 09:46:27 AM »

lol, it is all of your who are confusing sex with love.

i talk about a relationship, and all you accuse me of secretely talking about sex.

but, i care not. so long as everyone is in agreement that a sinceree genuine 3 person relationship can be just as, if not more than healthy and productive of a relationship as traditional relationship can.

tu_holmes · « **Reply #252 on:** February 12, 2013, 09:47:53 AM »

Quote from: tbombz on February 12, 2013, 09:46:27 AM

lol, it is all of your who are confusing sex with love.

i talk about a relationship, and all you accuse me of secretely talking about sex.

but, i care not. so long as everyone is in agreement that a sinceree genuine 3 person relationship can be just as, if not more than healthy and productive of a relationship as traditional relationship can.

No... You are the one confusing sex and love Taylor.

You yourself used the term Polyamory... We did not.

You need to understand that what you want is a bisexual 3 some, not a polyamorous relationship.

lulu · « **Reply #253 on:** February 12, 2013, 10:30:41 AM »

Quote from: tbombz on February 12, 2013, 09:46:27 AM

lol, it is all of your who are confusing sex with love.

i talk about a relationship, and all you accuse me of secretely talking about sex.

but, i care not. so long as everyone is in agreement that a sinceree genuine 3 person relationship can be just as, if not more than healthy and productive of a relationship as traditional relationship can.

sincere ?
genuine ?

you are hunting for a man to fill the third spot after reuniting with your ex

this is YOUR fantasy life and you want it so bad you can taste it so you are going all out to convince anyone and everyone it will work and it's a grand idea

Have you thought it all through ?

# bedrooms
who pays what ?
you have no job ?
what happens if your GF wants you alone and your BF says he wants in too ?
why did you and your GF break up before and what makes you think it won't happen again ?

there's serious commitments being made (moving in together) and respect should be part of it . You just keep coming off as a smarmy sort of guy that's just in this for the three-ways you want and you don't really care who with

you were checking out a cross dresser , then a southern boy ?

no feelings except lust

just hunting

sync pulse · « **Reply #254 on:** February 12, 2013, 10:39:03 AM »

Ich bin Links, und ich bin richtig.

tu_holmes · « **Reply #255 on:** February 12, 2013, 10:47:39 AM »

Quote from: lulu on February 12, 2013, 10:30:41 AM

sincere ?
genuine ?

you are hunting for a man to fill the third spot after reuniting with your ex

this is YOUR fantasy life and you want it so bad you can taste it so you are going all out to convince anyone and everyone it will work and it's a grand idea

Have you thought it all through ?

# bedrooms
who pays what ?
you have no job ?
what happens if your GF wants you alone and your BF says he wants in too ?
why did you and your GF break up before and what makes you think it won't happen again ?

there's serious commitments being made (moving in together) and respect should be part of it . You just keep coming off as a smarmy sort of guy that's just in this for the three-ways you want and you don't really care who with

you were checking out a cross dresser , then a southern boy ?

no feelings except lust

just hunting

This.

If he was looking for a "relationship" then he wouldn't have "just gotten back with his ex" before trying to throw in some penis in the relationship.

It's far too quickly for it not to be about his lust and not about love.

Primemuscle · « **Reply #256 on:** February 12, 2013, 01:57:03 PM »

Quote from: tbombz on February 11, 2013, 06:42:00 AM

life.. i suppose
sex can be incredibly emotional ..

I agree that sex can be emotional. However men seem to be able to compartmentalize sex and emotion, whereas with women, sex and emotion are more intertwined. Some women cry with joy during sex. I do not know many men who do this.

Kwon_2 · « **Reply #257 on:** February 13, 2013, 07:03:45 AM »

Something for Tbombz to consider

MORTALCOIL · « **Reply #258 on:** February 13, 2013, 07:06:27 AM »

Tbombz is as close to a chimera as it gets. Masturbating alone is a polyamorous experience.

HTexan · « **Reply #259 on:** February 13, 2013, 07:50:04 AM »

Quote from: tbombz on February 12, 2013, 09:46:27 AM

lol, it is all of your who are confusing sex with love.

i talk about a relationship, and all you accuse me of secretely talking about sex.

but, i care not. so long as everyone is in agreement that a sinceree genuine 3 person relationship can be just as, if not more than healthy and productive of a relationship as traditional relationship can.

Didn't read anything but the last page. But, in a relationship, intimacy is part of love. You're kidding yourself if you think it is not.
I don't know anyone in a polyamory relationship. IMO too much sharing to be healthly.
You should try it, if you think it will make you happy. but I think you need to decided if you want a boy or girlfriend. Then focus on that relationship.
Not, the same thing, but I knew a gay co-worker that lived with his ex and his ex's new boyfriend. Form what I heard, a lot of jealousy and mind games played. Not healthly.

anabolichalo · « **Reply #260 on:** February 13, 2013, 11:32:55 AM »

tbombz should do g4p

that way he has a job and can claim not to be gay

tbombz · « **Reply #261 on:** February 16, 2013, 06:16:57 PM »

look, yall can make any accusations about my intentions that you like.

so long as you realize that three people can be in a loving relationship, then all is well.

theres a nasty idea out there that selfish, greedy, self-important monogamy is the "right thing to do"

flinstones1 · « **Reply #262 on:** February 16, 2013, 06:19:42 PM »

Quote from: tbombz on February 16, 2013, 06:16:57 PM

look, yall can make any accusations about my intentions that you like.

so long as you realize that three people can be in a loving relationship, then all is well.

theres a nasty idea out there that selfish, greedy, self-important monogamy is the "right thing to do"

no you cant.....there is a reason normal healthy couples do not engage in threesomes

tu_holmes · « **Reply #263 on:** February 16, 2013, 06:30:49 PM »

Quote from: flinstones1 on February 16, 2013, 06:19:42 PM

no you cant.....there is a reason normal healthy couples do not engage in threesomes

No good will come from this.

Tapeworm · « **Reply #264 on:** February 16, 2013, 07:37:31 PM »

Quote from: tbombz on February 16, 2013, 06:16:57 PM

look, yall can make any accusations about my intentions that you like.

so long as you realize that three people can be in a loving relationship, then all is well.

theres a nasty idea out there that selfish, greedy, self-important monogamy is the "right thing to do"

It's based on the assumption that love is a finite quantity. Like a roast chicken divided between two, with each getting only half as much. Yes, it's silly and doesn't reflect the human capacity for affection.

But you'd be more credible and get yourself another 10 pages if you'd say that, in addition to the crystalline purity of your bottomless well of Taylorlove, there's also an element of sexual thrill in a three way which appeals to you and which isn't necessarily founded in heavenly love of the non-roast chicken variety. It's ok to admit that eroticism has its own appeal. Everyone knows it does.

Primemuscle · « **Reply #265 on:** February 16, 2013, 07:52:12 PM »

Quote from: tbombz on February 16, 2013, 06:16:57 PM

look, yall can make any accusations about my intentions that you like.

so long as you realize that three people can be in a loving relationship, then all is well.

theres a nasty idea out there that selfish, greedy, self-important monogamy is the "right thing to do"

You have crossed a line here. There is nothing selfish, greedy or self-important about monogamy. If it is the right thing to do, it is because it is the normal thing to do....normal meaning the most usual.

Talk to everyone about how normal your ideas are after you have experienced them....otherwise, Tbombz, you are literally talking out your ass.