Cool, good post... I like your point of view on this.
I know exactly what you mean. I wouldn't want to hurt anyone, I just think like you said traditional values are under attack and have been for some time. Not that there isn't room for everyone's values, but I think we should respect the way our grandparents lived.
I'm also a fan of the gays I know. Every one of them (that I know) is hardworking, and contribute to society. The thing that strikes me about gay people I know is that they're considerate which is rare today of anyone.
Coming from an old bisexual man who has been married to the wonderful woman for nearly fifty years in a traditional marriage, here are my thoughts on this: traditional values are passed down from one generation to the next. This is what my wife and I passed on to our children. Take two people who are completely different when it comes how they were raised; their religious indoctrination, their parental experiences, economic backgrounds, and finally sexual orientation, bring them together through love, respect and commitment to one another and you have a formula for success in pretty much every traditional way. The proof in the pudding is that our children are both in traditional, long term successful marriages.
I agree that a lot of gay folks are more considerate and forgiving of others shortcomings. Perhaps this has something to do with the fact that they have experienced more of the hurt people inflict on each other for no apparent reason.