I have.... its not easy. Drunk girl was hurt (emotionally) and upset at me and she was throwing blows. I deflected them and then grabbed her wrists and restrained her, only to have her spit in my face out of frustration.
I calmly told her if she did that again, shed regret it.
She calmed down, started sobbing and sat on the floor, but she stopped fighting. She was irrational and irate though.
It sas really difficult to not want to retaliate, especially since this girl could really throw a lunch and that shit hurt.
If she wasnt a close friend i may have handled it differently, no way of knowing.... but part of me knew she was just a drunk, beliggerent, butthurt female lashing out and trying to get a reaction from me, and that with how much larger and stronger i was, if i let myself go, id probably really hurt her.
I refused to give it to her. However, many men would have. And imo she would have totally been at fault. Women need to understand that many men have no problem with treating a woman like a man if shes conducing herself like a man. Its hard to argue with that logic.
If they're going to throw blows and get violent, they need to be prepared to get treated accordingly. No throwing punches, biting, soiting, and still expecting the dude to just shrug it off because shes a woman. Society has fed that demon too long, women think theyre protected and they can do whatevsr they want and the man shouldnt be able to retaliate.
I dated a girl who was really emotional and she attacked me twice. She would get mad and slam things down all the time, so i knew she was a little aggressive, but i never thought a 105 pound Mexican girl would attack a 225 pound trained fighter. Her emotions got the best of her all the time, she would get so mad about the smallest things. When people with emotional issues get mad, they just can't keep themselves from reacting like an animal. Her mother came from an abusive family and apparently assault is pretty common in Mexico and they don't make such a big deal out of it.
The first time we were both drunk as hell on vacation at the beach. We had just came inside from drinking on the beach for about 6 hours and she started arguing with me because i didn't want to walk 3 miles to dinner and preferred to take a taxi. Well she started getting all cray cray and i told her she was acting like a drunk bitch after she missed her chair trying to sit down and landed on the floor.
She lunged at me and punched me in the face, i just kind of took it and laughed. She had this look of shock and when she drew her hand back again i stood up and told her that I'd hit her back if she did it again. She started crying and apologized for acting that way after another 2 hours of arguing.
At this point i knew she was aggressive and emotionally unstable. We broke up for a few months and then got back together. Long story short she ended up going full out on me one night and punched/slapped/scratched me about 30 times while i was retreating out of her house to my truck to go home. The only defense i used was i grabbed her arm to move her out of the doorway so i could leave. I guess i grabbed her harder than i realized because it left a nasty bruise. She called the cops and they came to my condo, i showed them my injuries and all the scratches on my face; they ended up taking her to jail for assault and her neighbors saw almost the entire thing and were on my side.
Her family told me i deserved it for emotionally abuse, which could have been true, I'm a bit of a manipulator and like to get into people's heads, but i never wronged her IMO. I dropped the case because i just didn't want to go through all the nonsense, i just wanted her to spend time in jail to teach her a lesson. If i had it my way i would have punched her a few times just to let her know what it feels like; she had never been in a fight before and never been punched. She knew i had been training kick boxing my entire life and she had seen me spar with people; obviously she knew she had no chance but figured i wouldn't react to it. I guess she was right, but she ended up on the losing end spending a night in jail. I've never attacked anyone in my entire life.
Her brother threatened to send his "boys" after me and I sent him a text with my address, never heard back from him.
I don't agree with hitting women, but sometimes they deserve it. If you want equal rights you need to act like it and expect to be hit back if you assault someone. Just my opinion. I think Ray had every right to create space and get a way from someone who hit/spit on him. However, that left hook was nasty and way overboard. If he would have just pushed her away to create space i could understand, but knocking the poor girl out was excessive IMO.
She would not have been knocked out if she would have kept her hands and saliva to herself though. For every action there is a reaction, she got the bad end. They both deserve to be charged.
