So what happened that created your intability terms of marriage? We often mimic what we know...
And when you talk about criminals in jails were hit or whipped as kids, are we talking about excessive whipping, abuse?
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1. BOTH my grandparents stayed married for their entire life. In fact, my maternal ( Dutch/Irish) grandparents were married for 74 yrs!
I had a normal, healthy childhood with wonderful parents. For whatever reason, I never wanted to have children, while my sister had 3.
I developed an independent mind set from a young age and view marriage as a loving partnership, NOT a lifelong deal with no exceptions.
2. Plenty of decent, law abiding citizens were "whipped" as kids by their parents. When Peterson, says, he got whipped and now he does the same thing when he disciplines his kids. The harm to the kids is a lot more complicated an issue. I suspect that a child is better off getting a hard spanking, then in being ignored and allowed to run free. BUT, if the main interaction with the parent is getting whipped without much love in between, THAT may prove be harmful .