btw---I'm open about my current situation.....so just because I'm open about it means i'm the only one?
No, not alone. Like I said - I find most people to be a pain in the ass. "I'm not single, I'm busy." But it's true. A full-time woman? Family functions, holidays, walks on the fucking beach? Brunch? There's no way. I'm booked working every day, seven days, for the next couple months, during which time yet more work will arrive. Then I've got 10 years of backburnered projects to get on with, and new but overdue stuff like buying a goddamn property of my own and building a house and workshop on it so I can have some say in my destiny instead of being moved on, along with my 80 tons of equipment, whenever someone decides to sell their house that I rent.

My wife was right to be shitty with me. I am always working, every weekend, Christmas Day, New Year's Day, you name it. Well... I was there every day after work, which I still think is an a-ok compromise, because that's what people do - go to work and then come home - but she didn't feel the same. Of course, she's unhappier now that she hasn't got a penny to her name but that's not really my problem. And other women's problems aren't my problem. Rescuing someone from her lame ass situation of her own making is not my function. Not even if you hope it is. So good luck with your dramas, which are not mine. I ain't got time for anyone's stupid crap. I've got plenty of my own. We're all full up with stupid crap here, thanks very much.
A libido which is... persistent... doesn't change the fact that I'm selfish about my time and simply don't have room for anyone. Certainly not for anyone who is a full time project unto herself, which as far as I can tell is everyone. Life fills up. I guess I dropped the ball somehow. 'I must have died alone/a long, long time ago.' Most people managed to form relationships, have kids, pay a mortgage, etc. I don't know how they did it. Frankly, I think they did it by accident and by inertia but I digress. I'm 43. I still get propositioned which is nice but nevertheless - if I don't say fuck it and inseminate someone in the next few months, just hoping for the best that she's not going to be an ever-flowing font of eternal shittiness, it's pretty much over and I'm gonna live and die alone and never have kids. Seems awful likely. Guess I should have gone the other road but I did that for awhile and it was raw misery, so what can I tell you.
I trust this helps.