Can any of you be legitimately happy while alone/single?

[rocket]

Ok, well I have never had any proper long term relationship and believe it is quite possible I may be solitary for the rest of my life - and it doesn't overly bother me - so I'll weigh in here.  First of all, to be clear, I find myself to be quite unattractive and as a result, I can barely stand to be around others.  Everybody has their strengths and that is my weakness and really, it has made me quite the interesting person to know - far more than I reveal here. 

And no, I'm not depressed - I'm wayyy too busy doing shit to worry about that stuff.  You adjust or you die and I am fully adjusted to that adversity.

You can be legitimately happy, but it mostly comes down to what type of person you are and you might require adversity to FULLY come to that point.   I know I did.  I mean, I was always the solitary type (and not someone who easily trusts), but a fucking gigantic owning at the hands of my former best friend really pushed me to eventually let go of all pangs of wanting to be with someone.  That stuff happened I think four years ago and around a year ago, the pangs were completely gone and whilst I met a bunch, no women ever excited me during that time and I've done absolutely nothing to meet any girl in over a year because I'm tired of meeting people who don't come close to me in terms of personality.

But women have never been first priority in my life - I've always been more interested in doing stuff - ie, art, sport etc.   I absolutely fucking despise going anywhere and having to think about my dick.  I'd rather do almost anything than go to a bar to meet women.  It's just not fun, to me.  I'd rather get behind a mic and sing something (not particularly well), paint something (not particularly well) etc.

Whenever I think about what I want to do in life, I am never ever thinking about being with a good woman.  I don't really spend a lot of time just "enjoying life" and when you're with a woman, that's a lot of what you do with them which is hardly bad, but you don't move forwards anything like what you do when you're on your own.

Women, for me - are a quick, post gym jerkoff in the shower and then forgotten for the night.   I'm spending tonight doing exactly what I want to do and if there was a woman, here right now, it'd just be the couch, watching TV and then bang and then bed.

So the TLDR of that is, if you're the type of person who is "ugly hobbies guy".  Absolutely you can get along without women. 

[Mr Anabolic]

i've been with the same woman for 11 years (6 married)... we have 2 kids together... i cannot imagine what my life would be without my wife/kids.

I'm happiest when we're together. I think about them when we're apart.

Good for you.  There are good women/marriages, but it's very rare these days (mainly due to social media). 

[Method101]

Good for you.  There are good women/marriages, but it's very rare these days (mainly due to social media).  

Wrong, it's mainly because our governments and the powers that be fought and succeeded to kill off the one ideology that would have created a more ideal natural world.

Ok, well I have never had any proper long term relationship and believe it is quite possible I may be solitary for the rest of my life - and it doesn't overly bother me - so I'll weigh in here.  First of all, to be clear, I find myself to be quite unattractive and as a result, I can barely stand to be around others.  Everybody has their strengths and that is my weakness and really, it has made me quite the interesting person to know - far more than I reveal here.  

And no, I'm not depressed - I'm wayyy too busy doing shit to worry about that stuff.  You adjust or you die and I am fully adjusted to that adversity.

You can be legitimately happy, but it mostly comes down to what type of person you are and you might require adversity to FULLY come to that point.   I know I did.  I mean, I was always the solitary type (and not someone who easily trusts), but a fucking gigantic owning at the hands of my former best friend really pushed me to eventually let go of all pangs of wanting to be with someone.  That stuff happened I think four years ago and around a year ago, the pangs were completely gone and whilst I met a bunch, no women ever excited me during that time and I've done absolutely nothing to meet any girl in over a year because I'm tired of meeting people who don't come close to me in terms of personality.

But women have never been first priority in my life - I've always been more interested in doing stuff - ie, art, sport etc.   I absolutely fucking despise going anywhere and having to think about my dick.  I'd rather do almost anything than go to a bar to meet women.  It's just not fun, to me.  I'd rather get behind a mic and sing something (not particularly well), paint something (not particularly well) etc.

Whenever I think about what I want to do in life, I am never ever thinking about being with a good woman.  I don't really spend a lot of time just "enjoying life" and when you're with a woman, that's a lot of what you do with them which is hardly bad, but you don't move forwards anything like what you do when you're on your own.

Women, for me - are a quick, post gym jerkoff in the shower and then forgotten for the night.   I'm spending tonight doing exactly what I want to do and if there was a woman, here right now, it'd just be the couch, watching TV and then bang and then bed.

So the TLDR of that is, if you're the type of person who is "ugly hobbies guy".  Absolutely you can get along without women.  

Easy to say if you've never experienced the joy of companionship to the level some of us have, I would say there's nothing wrong with trying to attain that because trust me you would be happier than you are now. If you are ugly there are plenty of ugly women in the world too lol.

[falco]

I miss single life so bad.

[drkaje]

Can't be happy with another person if unhappy with yourself.

I'd have no problems being single.

[Purge_WTF]

 Better to live in a desert than with a quarrelsome and nagging wife. - Proverbs 21: 19

 The more I look into Western marriage and the effects on the man after the marriage comes to an end, the more grateful I am for being single.

 

[mazrim]

I miss single life so bad.

Lol

[johnnynoname]

what kind of beta/conformist shit is going on with people these days?!


you know who isn't complaining about being "lonely"?
that 19 year old who is looking to win a medal in the 100m's in the olympics
the 27 year old single mom with two jobs and goes to night school to get a degree
the 54 year old retiree traveling to egypt to see the pyramids


only people who have nothing going for them in there lives complain about  "being lonely"


just start doing things with your life

I can only assume the op is under the age of say 21 because this is some legit childish stuff to complain about


and as for the "single" thing...please someone give me a LEGIT answer about how they can stand a woman aside from the fact that she fucks you?

[spiro]

After living my last 3 years with my wife it would be very hard to go back to being single. We are workout partners and good friends. I get a lot of joy and relaxation hanging out with her and the dogs. She has my coffee and breakfast ready in the morning and dinner ready and night. Old fashioned Christian family. 

[bigmc]

jonny no name goes to hotel rooms to let old men suck him off

hardly the actions of a man happy in his own skin

[The_Iron_Disciple]

jonny no name goes to hotel rooms to let old men suck him off

hardly the actions of a man happy in his own skin

Hahahahahaha !!!

[Board_SHERIF]

im sick of 40 year old lunatic women..single now and happy..get laid once in a while..all good being single.

[8 INCH not biceps]

I struggle with this lately, after living with someone for 3 years previously unless I'm in a legit relationship with good long term prospects I have this nagging feeling that I have to find someone or I feel shitty. When I first started posting on getbig I honestly didn't give a shit anywhere as near as much as I do now. Even if I'm seeing a woman 2-3 times a week when she's not with me I feel down. My mind was fucked up by getting used to going to bed with the same chick every night and waking up next to her every morning. That gave me a sense of peace and happiness I just can't attain alone.

Epic Beta post by getbig standards but I don't give a shit I'm just being honest. Anyone else had a long-term serious relationship in the past then got this feeling with less serious relationships/"dating phases"?

You are a weak little tampon boy if you cannot make yourself happy how are you going to make another person happy, man up and get some help.

[Zillotch]

Epic Beta

Your best and only viable option is suicide.

[lilhawk1]

Being single is great once you get used to it.  Got out of a 6 year relationship, it took a good year to get used to being single again.. Spend time on yourself, stay busy, make money, travel, whatever pleases you.. Do not jump in a relationship to get over another one.. Most couples are together out of habit more than anything else.. Take a look around, how many couples are truly happy?  Not many..

[johnnynoname]

jonny no name goes to hotel rooms to let old men suck him off

hardly the actions of a man happy in his own skin

how dare you.......none of them were "old"

[PJim]

Get a pet. Seriously.

[Howard]

I struggle with this lately, after living with someone for 3 years previously unless I'm in a legit relationship with good long term prospects I have this nagging feeling that I have to find someone or I feel shitty. When I first started posting on getbig I honestly didn't give a shit anywhere as near as much as I do now. Even if I'm seeing a woman 2-3 times a week when she's not with me I feel down. My mind was fucked up by getting used to going to bed with the same chick every night and waking up next to her every morning. That gave me a sense of peace and happiness I just can't attain alone.

Epic Beta post by getbig standards but I don't give a shit I'm just being honest. Anyone else had a long-term serious relationship in the past then got this feeling with less serious relationships/"dating phases"?

Being happy and single is 100x better then being stuck in some horrible marriage with some witch.
1. Some men love being married and cherish being parents , raising kids.
These are men with traditional values and would feel empty as a single man.

2. Some men , like being married but have no interest or desire to have children.
This is my category. I thrive in a monogamous relationship and have no desire to screw around.
I view marriage as a loving partnership and we don't have kids .

3. Some men were meant to be single. There is NOTHING wrong with this lifestyle.
You can date and live a happy , functional independent lifestyle.
Getting married and/or starting a family isn't for everyone.

Make the choice you honestly feel move to live.
Don't let guilt or peer pressure force you into the wrong situation.

[Taffin]

I'm at my happiest when there's no one around.

Solitary confinement?   

[Howard]

I do not believe in marriage or having kids.  

I love it.  I get to do what I want, when I want, how I want... without having to check with anyone.  That is true freedom and happiness.

Being lonely is just a state of mind mainly caused by boredom.  Go and visit with friends or family members... get a hobby... go workout... read a book... start a business... etc.

Bingo! You're a great example of a guy that thrives in a single lifestyle.

I'm in the middle of the two extremes of single vs married with children.
Yup, I thrive best being married but never had kids or had the desire to be a dad.

Hey, in my book , as long as you have a job that pays your bills, live as you damn well please.

Pisses me off to hear some declare that everyone needs to be married to be happy. Bullshit !

[Howard]

I think if you take a look around majority of the people in this country are not doing well. In sheer numbers there are more whites on food stamps than blacks. Money does not equate to happiness. There are plenty of examples of this. Yes, a majority of my people may be poor in money but many of us are rich in spirit.  Something I wouldn't expect you to understand Mr. Big Bucks.

I won't go full-blown getbigger with claims of untold riches and playboy centerfold gf's.
.
But my wife and I NOW have some assets and small level of financial security.
I spent most of my younger life , driving beater cars and living in modest housing.
Yes Wiggs, money can't buy happiness , BUT , it sure makes life easier.

[Taffin]

Get a pet. Seriously.

Make it a female pet big enough to bang (legal in some states apparently) and you're good to go!   

[Howard]

Ok, well I have never had any proper long term relationship and believe it is quite possible I may be solitary for the rest of my life - and it doesn't overly bother me - so I'll weigh in here.  First of all, to be clear, I find myself to be quite unattractive and as a result, I can barely stand to be around others.  Everybody has their strengths and that is my weakness and really, it has made me quite the interesting person to know - far more than I reveal here. 

And no, I'm not depressed - I'm wayyy too busy doing shit to worry about that stuff.  You adjust or you die and I am fully adjusted to that adversity.

You can be legitimately happy, but it mostly comes down to what type of person you are and you might require adversity to FULLY come to that point.   I know I did.  I mean, I was always the solitary type (and not someone who easily trusts), but a fucking gigantic owning at the hands of my former best friend really pushed me to eventually let go of all pangs of wanting to be with someone.  That stuff happened I think four years ago and around a year ago, the pangs were completely gone and whilst I met a bunch, no women ever excited me during that time and I've done absolutely nothing to meet any girl in over a year because I'm tired of meeting people who don't come close to me in terms of personality.

But women have never been first priority in my life - I've always been more interested in doing stuff - ie, art, sport etc.   I absolutely fucking despise going anywhere and having to think about my dick.  I'd rather do almost anything than go to a bar to meet women.  It's just not fun, to me.  I'd rather get behind a mic and sing something (not particularly well), paint something (not particularly well) etc.

Whenever I think about what I want to do in life, I am never ever thinking about being with a good woman.  I don't really spend a lot of time just "enjoying life" and when you're with a woman, that's a lot of what you do with them which is hardly bad, but you don't move forwards anything like what you do when you're on your own.

Women, for me - are a quick, post gym jerkoff in the shower and then forgotten for the night.   I'm spending tonight doing exactly what I want to do and if there was a woman, here right now, it'd just be the couch, watching TV and then bang and then bed.

So the TLDR of that is, if you're the type of person who is "ugly hobbies guy".  Absolutely you can get along without women. 

Excellent post.

[Howard]

I miss single life so bad.

This is getbig, so I don't know who's serious , so I apologize if you think I'm busting your balls here.

I often hear various guys echo the same sentiments about missing single life.
Ok, so why not get divorced and return to it?

[Howard]

Better to live in a desert than with a quarrelsome and nagging wife. - Proverbs 21: 19

Why anyone remains in a miserable marriage is beyond me.
Life is too short to stay with a wife that sucks the joy of living out of ya.