Positivity and happiness, is it possible?

[rocket]

Also cannot stand those who will cry that you are not 'achieving something'. Achieving what? For whom? If making millions truly gives you satisfaction, then do it. Same for vegetating on the couch watching Oprah. Just pick that which you won't regret on your death bed.

If you are person trying to do something, you better be ready for every jealous c unt you know to make snide fucking comments which vary in their reasons but generally are along the lines of either:

- I wish I was doing that / came up with that
- Anybody could do that / come up with that
- It doesn't make sense that they could do that, my idea of their personality doesn't fit
- Damn their luck, it's not fair.

If you have not experienced this - perhaps you live in a less harsh environment but I can tell you point blank that you might not like that "achieving nothing" line, but it is spot on with respect to a lot of people putting a lot of bad energy onto the internet and around you in real life.   A lot of petty people who really have no idea that they could just try harder at their own goals and feel better that way, instead.

It doesn't fit all people, some people are just nasty fucks to begin with.

[Thong Maniac]

Dude you need to simplify your life and figure out the things that truly give you happiness in life, I learned this early in life, I come from a very wealthy family, my dad owns a very successful business that has been in my family since 1940, growing up and working with my dad in my teens molded my entire outlook on life, my dad is not a happy person, has millions, yet is stressed out to the maximum since I can remember. I knew I wanted no part of that life, in college I had to take a religion course as a prerec, I ended up taking a Buddhism course, this was another thing that completely changed my life, in Buddhism they preach being "non judgemental" amongst other things, I started apply this to my life, stopped competing with others, judging others, and just did shit that I enjoyed and you know what it worked. I stopped giving a fuck what anyone thought and just did shit I enjoyed, at first I was criticized, by family and friends, especially after college seeing that my tuition was just over $100,000 and I decided not to even enter the field of marketing (which I got my degree in) and just continue to bartend, which I got into my senior year of college. This job may be looked at as a joke, yet to me it was amazing, I get paid to have fun talk and meet people and bang chicks lol. I get to train everyday, sleep in, cook all my meals, nap and turns out I was making more money they all my friends I went to school with and only working 4 days a week tops. With the money I made from bartending I've been able to invest in property and in the stock market, and my other passion in life is traveling, especially to tropical destinations, so what did I do next get a job bartending on a cruiseship, that allows me to go to the beach everyday, meet passengers and crew from all over the world, eat for free, train, compete, and again bang unlimited girls. It may not be the most prestigious occupation to other people, but to me I'm enjoying life to the fullest.

i know your story man, and its impressive for sure. you were perceptive growing up and could translate it into what you wanted to do. me, like many others, do the college, career thing and before you know it you have a house, mortage, and wife (and soon kids). its almost like you wake and realize where you are at 26 your like "whoa where did the last 8 years ago, what am i doing, am i happy with this? well tough shit your in it now".

either way, not exactly the point of my thread but i think you are right about the buddhism stuff. i might actually look into that. moral of my post, i feel like im becoming a resentful, hateful, asshole and im not sure why. Just dumb day to day life stuff gets me down, or annoyed, etc. like a person takes a selfie and doesnt care im in the pic, or someone doesnt hold the door for me, or some idiot is disrespectful to a cashier or server, or i have a big pimple on my face, will like set me off and make me upset. trivial stuff that most happy people would ignore...

one thing ive noticed about me is i have a great family and parents and brothers, etc. but i only worry about myself snd think about how things affect me. this is very unhealthy i think, and ive been selfish for so long
. i have a kid on the way, so while i was anti kid for a while, i think this might actually be very good for me in terms of where i focus my attention and efforts

[Grape Ape]

Interesting take but I disagree. In my opinion Girls and sons who have not been loved by their fathers seek attention once teens and adults to compensate for what they didnt have originally. Fathers either left them alone, or were distant most of the time and not encouraging them. Some even despised them which would shape their personality and the way they d interact with others for the rest of their life.
They are extremistic in everything they do, always looking exageratly for attention, and have troubles adapting to society's rules, because they also have troubles defining their own identity and respecting authority and hierarchy.


Also boys who got picked on by others during childhood and adolescence -often sons without a father figure- try to compensate by lifting weights, to develop muscles and survive in ther male world. They re insecure because they re girly, childish, feminine having been raised by a single mom. They lift obsessively hoping it will transform them into men, to compensate for their lack of influence from a father figure that was not there. Unfortunaltey they can get as big as they can it doesnt cure their insecurity and who they truly are, how they grew up being raised by a single mom. They re no as manly as other men whatever they do, and they often have a big lack of masculine presence they dont know how to balance, hence often being borderline homosexuals while trying to get their manhood back thru various manly activities (mma, cars, weight lifting etc). They are often the ones that, in order to get respect from other males will go the steroids route to get even "bigger" attemptint to cure their insecurity , but being natural not being "enough", they still feel "too small", insecure, amongst other males. The lack of a father figure also often means they didnt have guidance to continue studies and are often working shitty manual jobs.

You present a good counter argument but you're over complicating things.  In essence, it's simple:  Jay Cutler is the one on the right.

Hope this helps.

[mazrim]

These sorts of threads seem to pop up fairly often from OP. For someone who spouts junk in other threads about belief systems and ideas/acts like he has it figured out, you are far, far away from that.

Seem very insecure and not too happy with your life.

[Yamcha]

there, there

[CalvinH]

Only here on GB.

[Tapeworm]

No.  Don't waste your time.  Just be a big fat grouch.

[Thong Maniac]

These sorts of threads seem to pop up fairly often from OP. For someone who spouts junk in other threads about belief systems and ideas/acts like he has it figured out, you are far, far away from that.

Seem very insecure and not too happy with your life.

exactly, i agree with you

[phreak]

If you are person trying to do something, you better be ready for every jealous c unt you know to make snide fucking comments which vary in their reasons but generally are along the lines of either:

- I wish I was doing that / came up with that
- Anybody could do that / come up with that
- It doesn't make sense that they could do that, my idea of their personality doesn't fit
- Damn their luck, it's not fair.

If you have not experienced this - perhaps you live in a less harsh environment but I can tell you point blank that you might not like that "achieving nothing" line, but it is spot on with respect to a lot of people putting a lot of bad energy onto the internet and around you in real life.   A lot of petty people who really have no idea that they could just try harder at their own goals and feel better that way, instead.

It doesn't fit all people, some people are just nasty fucks to begin with.

All true. I just don't care. I do what I do for me, so I don't need external approval. I hear about snide remarks concerning my lifting, my ascetic lifestyle and dress sense, my promiscuity, my sexual proclivities... but all of those make me happy. So how would anyone saying anything affect how I feel about myself? The word of my wife, my sister and my father means something to me. The rest of the world is a collection of interchangable meat puppets, easily replaced.

[The Abdominal Snoman]

Who you are is who you're suppose to be. Trying to be something you aren't naturally is a time bomb waiting to happen. You can't fool your subconscious. The only thing you can do is learn some skills on how to handle your emotions in a civil manner but it will not make you happy. It will just make you feel like a sort of "actor" in the world pretending to be something you are not.

[The Abdominal Snoman]

Jordan Peterson the professor in Toronto who is getting a shitload of backlash for going up against the Cultural Marxist PC police that are trying to take control of all aspects of our society goes into detail about what's going on in society etc. This long Joe Rogan Podcast may be the best podcast that Rogan has ever done. Even if you guys only listen to 5 or 10 minutes at a time, do yourself a favor and listen to this podcast.

[Zillotch]

Jordan Peterson the professor in Toronto who is getting a shitload of backlash for going up against the Cultural Marxist PC police that are trying to take control of all aspects of our society goes into detail about what's going on in society etc. This long Joe Rogan Podcast may be the best podcast that Rogan has ever done. Even if you guys only listen to 5 or 10 minutes at a time, do yourself a favor and listen to this podcast.

x2, everyone should listen

[falco]

From tender age, we are told that there needs to be a reason to be happy. That couldn't be more away from the truth. You have control of your state of mind,, if you choose to be happy you will be happy regardless of circunstances.
Circunstances are neutral, you are the one who give them meanning, positive, negative.. You decide.