jack good post man. i was pretty niave when i got married. i fell for the "princess" wedding, jesus boy doing our vows (im an atheist- still pissed to this day we paid thAt fucker), annoying mother in law with her formal bullshit, 6 and 6 bridemaids and groosman, very old fashion, etc. etc. at the time, i just didnt care. kinda like, oh well sure whatever. as im 30s now, my friends getting married are doing destination weddings, fun stuff with small group of friends, etc. looks so fun, so i am kinda still pissed we did the stupid dog and poney show. that seems like the shit that goes on when you are in your twenties getting married. so my advice, wait till your an adult like age 30 and up. 25 is no adult.
financially speaking, marriage was great for us. my savings was shit, and my wife earns double what i earn. we were able to buy a house, and move up in investments, etc. also, like you said, my wife is very thrifty amd always looks for the best deal. friends we have in their thirties who are marrying are still doing the townhouse or rental thing. so combining assets really can propel you forward much faster.
now, this might not be important to many people. its really not to me. i argue alot about what we buy because id be fine with a shack in the woods. that always seems to be where people argue, is the life style. people have expectations. my expectation was big savings, retire early and small modest home and never worry about money. wife loves work, and wants big houses, nice things. thats our one main wedge, which sucks.
honestly, i was depressed single (wasnt getting laid bcause i wasnt confident (this was before tindr, which
ooks fun and easy) was lonely, had no one to watch dogs when i traveled). i also get depressed being married. so much hot asss out there, and you always thinkg " wow i bet that girl really has it all...nice person, loving, hot, etc...but you never really know. grass is always greeener. its a mental illness which i have. im never satisfied. i do KNOW that if i was single, id still be miserable though. i think im better off married honestly. like others said, working on happiness is the hard part and thats what im goin focus on for 2017. any tips are welcom!
You'd be fine with a shack in the woods because like any real man, you're subconsciously looking for fulfilment and not happiness through stuff. Happiness are for women, children and boys in their early 20s that's yet to become men. Women wants 'pretty and shiny' or bigger and better to impress other women. They play these stupid fucking games their whole lives. Some men do too, until they finally off themselves or become alcoholics or otherwise addicted. A waste because nobody ever taught them the difference between happiness (which don't really exist as it's a fleeting state of mind) and living fulfilling lives. Once you live a life that fulfills you, it makes NO difference whether you're single or married. A partner can add to that but you never allow them to take away from that.
Apart from fucking a woman, the best and most fulfilling times of my life has been spent chilling with my male buddies. About a week ago I went to a new gym. It was over 3 levels, with the weight section being in the basement area. Really tiny, only 4 benches there all tightly packed together. Was around 9pm in the evening and there were 2 other dudes in there. With the space being so small, we all took our headphones off and started talking to each other. Imagine that in 2016/2017. Crazy huh? All of us were doing chest so with the space so cramped, we moved to one bench and started training together. That workout was the best one I did in 2016. The next day my chest was torn to shreds. Only really recovered yesterday. I walked out of there with two new gym buddies. We're catching up again in a week or two to train together. For me that's fulfilment.
Imagine women doing that. They'll ignore each other and subconscious compete, willing each other to fail. Men don't do that. I see a dude on a bench trying and struggling, he's getting a spot.
Gone off on a tangent here but you get my drift. Fulfilment, not happiness!
