I've always considered myself a faithful, monogamous guy and have preferred relationships to playing the field since I was in my mid20s, but it has been harder and harder to convince myself not to stray lately.
I've never cheated in the past. Before I got married, I would just break it off with whatever girl I was seeing. Even if I had something lined up, I would wait til I was out of one relationship.
I don't love my wife less than I did a few years ago and I love my little family unit, but just slipping in a one night stand here and there is becoming an all consuming thought. I just keep cycling through the same arguments: every relationship comes to this point, she'll either have to forgive me or we'll both just have to move on with our lives, etc...
I started doing this thing about a year ago- whenever I'm near an attractive woman in a place where it's reasonable to start a conversation (like in line at a store or on an elevator), I give her a compliment on her outfit. Nothing lewd and no expectations beyond that. Almost all of them choose to continue having a conversation. And within 5-10 minutes, at least half of them offer their phone numbers or a way to get in touch with them on social media. They always see my wedding ring. Occasionally, I'll accept, but I've never contacted any of them. I guess I told myself it was innocent when I first started, but I never would have done it at the beginning of my marriage and it's sort of like an addiction now.
How you doing, getbig? You managing to stay faithful without a struggle? Is it hard, but you manage? Feel free to share some words of wisdom.
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OP Note: No offense, Howard, but if you were considering posting in this thread, please don't.)