Cheating

[Fortress]

Lifetime monogamy is not natural. However, if you marry with this fundamental understood as a requirement, stay the course and don't cheat.

Me, I'd strongly suggest a majority of men DO NOT marry.

The pain and frustration you experience when you've grown beyond tired of fucking that same old pussy, decade after decade, is extreme. It will make you angry and bitter. Your relationship will erode. It's inevitable.

If you come to love a woman and desire her romantically, ride that wave for as long as it lasts. But do not marry her. If she becomes the woman with whom you choose to have your children, do marry her, but know your sex life will deteriorate gradually until, sooner or later, it will no longer exist. Wanking will be your only saving grace.

But your children don't deserve a sneaking, lying father.

Life is cruel. It is hell.

Best to stay single, engage in an honest sexual experience where available, allow maturity to inform you of your honest appraisal of fatherhood, avoid drugs and booze, and keep a majority at arms' length. Humans are dangerous. Extremely dangerous.

Our sex drives are a curse. Know this.

[Tapeworm]

Then get divorced and get your sillies out as much as you want! Don't do it while you're married.

I really did not know what a bunch of whiny-ass little pussies some of you are, complaining about your wives to perfect strangers, when the best and most practical option would be to settle discrepancies with her. Sex-wise, your wife ought to succumb to your wishes, and vice versa. It won't happen overnight, but if you have to beg or get on your knees to get a blow job or anal from her, YOU are the idiot, and bad in the sack I might add.

And getting a goomah won't do nothing but satisfy the short term urge. Dassit. You will still be shit in bed and won't be able to "train" your female, or male, to engage in the filthiest shit that you want to take part in THAT night.

It's a vicious circle that will tsunami its way through your family, your kids, everyone.

Maybe the institution of marriage is just incompatible with human nature.

[Slapper]

Maybe the institution of marriage is just incompatible with human nature.

With some males/females, absolutely.

[Slapper]

[...]but know your sex life will deteriorate gradually until, sooner or later, it will no longer exist.[...]

Wait, what?!

IFF you suck in bed and can't mix it up, absolutely.

I'm in my forties and having the best sex of my life (married for 20). Everything is on the menu.

[B_B_C]

So I waited before responding so other God haters convicted by my post would demonstrate exactly what I stated in my post....and they did not disappoint:

Here's one example of "no accountability" I noted.

Here's one example of "men can't  control their desires" I noted.

Here's a red herring coupled with an example of "reasoning away" the adoption of good behavior I noted.

In short when Christians bring the light the God haters are instantly convicted and must run from it.  Thank you for the demonstration boys.

Blessed are we that can learn from your humility

[Man of Steel]

Blessed are we that can learn from your humility

 

[Never1AShow]

We are on page 7 of this thread and still do not know if the issue here is that his wife got fat and ugly. 

Also I know many men who got divorced thinking they'd be banging new girls every night then went out and married the next piece of decent looking tail to come along.  (Not meant to invite Howard back into thread)

[Never1AShow]

Wait, what?!

IFF you suck in bed and can't mix it up, absolutely.

I'm in my forties and having the best sex of my life (married for 20). Everything is on the menu.

Gotta agree here.  I don't know maybe some people just get lucky with sex drive, partners, etc, but it can be great even after many years.

[rocket]

I don't love my wife less than I did a few years ago and I love my little family unit, but just slipping in a one night stand here and there is becoming an all consuming thought. I just keep cycling through the same arguments: every relationship comes to this point, she'll either have to forgive me or we'll both just have to move on with our lives, etc...

You will only understand how much you love your wife, when you've fucked it all up and ruined it.

Similarly, you will only understand how earth shatteringly terrible of an affair this will be for your wife, when you've fucked her all up and ruined it.

I don't judge you for your thoughts, expect the one about how she will "have to forgive you".

That, my friend, is some motherfucking cold shit, right there.

If you're thinking about fucking another girl, more power to you, but I label you as a scumbag who doesn't deserve your wife if you sit there thinking it is even a possibility that you could exploit your wife's forgiveness to have your cake and eat it too. 

Fix your head up and thinking about it properly.  If you cheat on your wife, that's it, you don't deserve to be with her. 

Yes, this is a bit harsh, but consider how little respect you have if you're plotting to perpetrate probably the worst moment of your wife's life (or very high up there) and then get away with it.

[Rascal full]

Some good advice in this thread. You still love your wife and obviously your kid so I'd say no temporary pleasure is worth losing that. Longterm satisfaction out weighs short term pleasure.

[Al Doggity]

I'm not buying any of the other reasons mentioned in this thread why you shouldn't cheat.  They all admit that you want to but say you shouldn't for some reason involving consequences.  Fuck that.  I'm saying if things are right then you genuinely wouldn't want to.

I see 3 possibilities for you:

1. Love gets eroded by day to day crap and this has consequences in the bedroom.

2. You're not getting what you want from sexual interactions with her.  Maybe you have some weird shit going on.  Maybe she does.  Relax, we all do.

3. Love just doesn't last.  If it solves the problem of lust at all it doesn't do it forever.  

2/3 of these you could potentially solve.  Only you know if it's worth trying to.

Or maybe you just like flirting.  It's a fun ego boost.  

There's no evidence that love is an emotion I'm capable of so I'm kind of guessing.  Anyway, yes, you should respect your relationship.  But you should want to, right?  Not just respect it because you have to.  If a relationship is some grim forced march then what the hell are you doing?  Lots of people do that imo.

Not necessarily. Just as an example, I'll use my relationship with my daughter. I love my children more than anything in the world, but at the same time, there are only so many hours in the day. I honestly do enjoy spending time with her, but on weekdays when she wants to have a tea party that's gonna take a minimum of an hour, my mind is always in a thousand different places. My love for her doesn't change the fact that sometimes spending time with her is a responsibility. There are times when I just wish she'd make our tea parties much shorter, but I know it's important for a father to spend quality time with his daughter. We have had a part-time nanny for the past few years (like a lot of young families in cities do) The fact that there are some things that we hired someone else to handle doesn't mean that we love our kids less.


Monogamy is sort of like a "family responsibility" to your partner. It's not always something you want to do just because you love the person. It doesn't mean that everything about the relationship or your life is grim. It just means that your sex drive is still functional.  

[Al Doggity]

I don't judge you for your thoughts, expect the one about how she will "have to forgive you".

That, my friend, is some motherfucking cold shit, right there.

I never said she'll have to forgive. What I said is that when cycling through arguments in my head, one of them is that  she'll either have to forgive or she won't and then we'll both move on with our lives. Meaning that if I were to have an affair and she ended up finding out, she either has the option of forgiving me or not forgiving me and ending the relationship.

[Al Doggity]

Some good advice in this thread. You still love your wife and obviously your kid so I'd say no temporary pleasure is worth losing that. Longterm satisfaction out weighs short term pleasure.

Yeah, bruh, sometimes you just need to talk shit out. There's some saying about how it's easier to give advice to other people than to follow your own advice.

[Rascal full]

Yeah, bruh, sometimes you just need to talk shit out. There's some saying about how it's easier to give advice to other people than to follow your own advice.

Oh, I agree 100%. I'm not suggesting this is easy in anyway shape or form. Temptation is a killer whether it's women, drink, drugs, gambling, whatever. All I am saying is sometimes in life you have more to lose and it can help reminding yourself that the pay off isn't worth the risk. Helps me sometimes when I am tempted to do shit I know I shouldn't.

[Thong Maniac]

Al, could you talk with your wife and maybe be vocal about what u need sexually?
i think its totally natural to think about strange pussy/cock. i know lots of guys who cheat or want to. most guys who have unlimited options shouldnt marry unless they like being tied down. i dont have options because of either my lack of confidence, personality isnt "fun loving", or i look like a troll, etc . we will never know. if you have options and are not enjoying your life, maybe just get a divorce and move on. thats the easiest. juggling home life and a side fling cant be fun. id imagine its very stressful.

[polychronopolous]

Al, could you talk with your wife and maybe be vocal about what u need sexually?
i think its totally natural to think about strange pussy/cock.

Yes. For many getbiggers this last part must be emphasized.

[Man of Steel]

Just don't cheat.  If you're gonna make a decision to do something ask yourself if your significant other or parents would approve and be proud of you.  If your significant other, friends and parents happen to be morally and spirituality bankrupt then simply seek Christ and scripture...if you don't conform to that standard you're flat wrong and need change.  If this post offends you then you're exactly who needs to make change.

[El Diablo Blanco]

It's not cheating to have a stripper rub one out in front of you and you jerk yourself off and cum on her tits.  Just don't touch her.

[SF1900]

It's not cheating to have a stripper rub one out in front of you and you jerk yourself off and cum on her tits.  Just don't touch her.

I wonder why Goodrum and Queen Vissy separated. 

[Al Doggity]

Horrible guidance....the epitome of a debased, worldly mind....shameful.

 

[nzmusclemonster]

Don't be a typical, WEAK man that watches pornography, is consumed with lust, that repeatedly commits adultery or fornication, that engages prostitutes for sex, that disrespects women at every turn, that constantly says our desires as men can't be controlled, that lacks accountability for their actions and that reasons away the joys of marriage and family.  

Be a man with backbone and strength....integrity.  These other lowlife men that encourage the despicable things I first noted are the weakest, most pathetic middle age adolescents on the planet.  Following their example leads to absolute, meaningless nothingness.  Choose to act like a man not a stupid boy.

LOL this guy is hilarious 

[Fortress]

Wait, what?!

IFF you suck in bed and can't mix it up, absolutely.

I'm in my forties and having the best sex of my life (married for 20). Everything is on the menu.

You've done well. Happy for you. However, 20 years in, and only in your forties, is still, relatively, early in the marriage.

"Everything on the menu" except fresh and exciting new pussy. The PRIME factor in overload desire.

And if your wife allows you to smash other gash, well, your opinion here doesn't count.

But as I say, you're doing better than most.

[Yamcha]

 I love my children more than anything in the world,...

Haven't read all 7 pages, but:

That's what would keep me from cheating on my wife.

there's a chance that you'd have to explain to your children one day what happened if the marriage fell apart; or worse - your ex-wife would explain to them what happened. 

[Grape Ape]

Wait, what?!

IFF you suck in bed and can't mix it up, absolutely.

I'm in my forties and having the best sex of my life (married for 20). Everything is on the menu.

So many don't understand this.

[Fortress]

So many don't understand this.

Give it a rest. How many times can the same two people "mix it up"? Within several hundred fucks you'd be flinging poop at each other, desperate to continue the "excitement" charade.

Having a comforting and easy sexual experience with your spouse is all well and good, but after plunging your hog into that same hole THOUSANDS of times, only a beta who knows he'd never score another kunt could NOT go slightly mad with the monotony.

Sex excitement is a romantic notion. Real life, day in and day out, kills romance.

If you've been married 30 years and say you wouldn't tag ANY other broad if it was all well and good, you're either a liar or an anomaly.