The man was universally loved and respected by all in the BB community. The gofundme proves that. I wouldn't begrudge the family, and here I am thinking about those 2 boys, taking whatever people are willing to give and using it to give the boys are comfortable life. I bet you nobody donating is complaining that the goal is being moved. The family obviously did not know how much the BB world valued him.
He was a good man and will be missed. May he rest in peace.
Maybe. Maybe not. I, too, hope the boys are provided for. My critique has more to do with the pattern one often sees in gofundme drives: the moving target. If the target is $100k and it is exceeded by any amount that is laudable, and I probably would not comment on that. But raising the target every time you get close to meeting it smacks of chicanery. Most GFM drives are trying to raise money to meet a specified need… to pay a specific bill(s). If the target keeps moving then the message is ‘we want to milk all the suckers we can for as long as we can.’ An open ended fundraising effort that is not tied to any specific expense is, on some level, illegitimate.
I do not know anything about this family, but I do know something of human behavior. When money falls into your lap that you did not earn you spend it one way… when you
earn the money, you spend it very differently. I hope the funds are placed in trust for the kids and is off limits until they are, say, over 25 or out of college.
An aside: a very good friend of mine had a sister who won a $20+ million dollar lottery. Shortly after winning the money she died. She had four kids: two were total losers; the other two were only slightly better. When she died she left the slightly better kids about $75k each. She left the losers about $50k each. She left the bulk of the money to her brother (who had his own money btw). In no time at all the kids burned through the money and came knocking on the Uncle’s door asking for cash. “We want our mother’s money!” Eventually, they accused him of stealing “their” money. He reminded them that their mom gave them the money she wanted them to have, and he kindly reminded them that they have no claim on the money left to him by his sister. As a gesture, he told them that if they wanted to go to school or buy a house he would pay for that. None of them were interested in either of those things. They wanted the cash—so they could burn through it again. He said no. They sued him twice to get the money and lost both times.
