Grape where are you at?
In SoCal these parents act like your child has no chance of being good at anything if they aren’t enrolled in a sport /activity at 4. It doesn’t matter if it’s tball, soccer, basketball, dance, gymnastics, martial arts;flag football even. It’s a very weird mindset.
New England.
I have been through the journey of coaching youth sports, from T-Ball all the way through to coaching AAU and conversing with college scouts about recruitment. So I have seen it all.
I do agree with you that that type of lunacy exists, for sure. I can't tell you how many people think because their 3-4 year old kid hits a few shots with the fat plastic blue baseball bat that their kid "is going to be great"....LOL. But I don't see leveling criticism at a parent for NOT enrolling them in this stuff at age four as legitimate. Unrelated, but if California liberal parents are all for something, it's probably wrong as well.
And it vaires - at 4, they can likely have some fun at dance (been through that journey too), gymnastics, martial arts, etc......but baseball/basketball/soccer at that age is useless, and I don't think they get anything out of it terms of development.