Not getting picked by the judges is not a fail I trained hard and got in great shape thats a win
For a kid getting a participation trophy, maybe.
For an adult? No. Winning is a win.
I'm in the best shape I've ever been in, FAR better than when I got my Pro Card. But unless he can't find the venue, I'm going up to Pittsburgh in 12 days for Scooby to kick my ass. That will not be a win. I'll be thrilled with how I look, but I'm not 11, so that would be a loss.
You don't have to live in reality, but you should consider visiting from time to time...