Yes dee i agree that the person with custody takes the brunt of the finacial responsibility but your missing the point she CHOOOOOOOOSE to take on those responsibilities the man may have not choose.
At LEAST you now understand that there is certainly an unfairness now Im certainly not proposing what should be done only ideas. The fact that there is an unfairness is what needs to be addressed how it is addressed needs to be done in a equally fair manner.
basically you said that it was the man that went around fucking women and thats why ppl get pregnant you tried to guise it in biological terms but that was the just of your statement.
No No NO NONONONONONONONONO again you are misunderstanding what im saying, it is both of their responsibilities im not putting it on one person more then the other. I actually believe that the man should pay for his child etc. he was equally responsible for that child the problem is you cannot logically give one party the right to choose and deny the other party when they are equally responsible.
Im simply pointing out the unfairness in the system again im not advocting men to stop paying child support only for equal rights under the law.
if you still feel im putting the onus onto the women please explain why?
There is unfairness on both sides... the woman bears all the health risks and the burden of pregnancy, while the man can walk away at any time but maybe not without financial burden.
There is no way around it, unless if we go back to "old ways," where women get all rights and all problems. That is what you've been proposing with your arguments. If you are now changing your opinion, and arguing from a philosophical POV only, yes, it seems unfair that if you make a whoopsie error with a religious fundamentalist, or whatever, you're saddled with a kid you don't want because you can't force anyone to have an abortion. However, as someone said, you do have the choice to try as hard as hell not to make a mistake.
The way it is now, is the best the law can do to make sure EVERYONE has rights, and also that everyone pays for their mistakes. Not the taxpayer.
You're making a big deal out of nothing. Most people who find themselves preggers where one doesn't want it, end up having an abortion. People who are civilized can divide up custody so there is no financial payout, just shared responsibility. Happens every day. But isn't always possible. So, the one (male or female) who doesn't want the daily responsibility of raising the kid, writes out a check every month.
