from a piece in Esquire
Morning
First thing, take ninety seconds to give her the greatest good morning possible: "Good morning. I love you." And if she's asleep, you can lower your voice and whisper, "I love you. Have an awesome day." She'll hear you anyway.
After work
Right when you get home, focus on her for a full ninety seconds. If she's happy, you go happy; if she's low, you go low, and make sure you look her in the eyes long enough to discern her eye color. This says, I value you, I need you.
Night
Sometime during the last thirty minutes before bed, take ninety seconds to engage fully with her. Do not talk about children, money, or work. Don't talk about the past at all. Look at her, stroke her hair, snuggle up to her, tell her you love her.
Conclusion
Ninety seconds in the morning, ninety seconds after work (or any time you've been away from her for at least two hours), and ninety seconds at night. That's how you bond. After seven to ten days, the marriage will change.
I think those 270 seconds are very well spent and should be reciprocal 
this is dumb. i used to do all this crap and more as the awesome boyfriend i was. you know what?.. SHE was the one not doing this crap. not talk about kids, money, work??? DID SHE EVER TALK ABOUT ANYTHING ELSE??!? lololol
hilarity. my response to this is that whoever wants to have a good relationship should never, ever stop doing the things or being the way which started off the relationship in the first place. this trickery of women being or acting awesome for the first 6 months/year and then slacking off and basically turning into a lazy, nagging, sexless creature needs to go. any couple i know that is still together after any length of time it is usually because they stop that from happening.
