....let's say that a good friend that got proposed to and said yes(more in a '' Ok '' way), latter confides to you that he/she gets goosebumps just thinking about the arrival of THE day and shows very little interest in the arrangement of the whole thing(the dress, the band etc.), eventhough he/she's been together with that person for 10 years........ how would you deal with it? What would you tell your friend?
I'd tell my friend to have a serious sit down with the man , after 10 years they should be close enough to say things openly and be totally honest.
If my friend said she couldn't do that , I'd tell her to get a grip .
If you can't sit down and really talk , you can't be married.
After 10 yrs in a relationship if it isn't all fireworks it's understandable , but if it's in any way "distaste or dislike" towards the "marriage" , don't do it.
If it is towards the intended partner then , to allow him to go through with it and invest anything further , emotionally , would be more hurtful than pausing it now.
imho