You're looking, that's is one of the problems.
Just do you in a good way and someone coming from the right place will turn up. Just don't tell her about the cat.
I agree with this.....don't look too hard..women can smell desperation a mile away....nothing turns them off more....just sit back and let things happen..
three months ago I was thinking the same as you Migs...needed to find a woman to replace my ex who was giving me grief....I was on the train thinking about how miserable I was and how I needed to find another woman....but I promised myself that I would not be desperate and look around for a woman because of the reason I gave above...I asked the universe to take care of it for me and send a woman my way...
That same day I walked into an office building to attend a seminar..I walked in and there was a nice -looking receptionist there who seemed nice...we did some small talk and I said to her "how come there's no ring on that finger"?...she replied "there used to be"...and it went from there..now she's my girlfriend and we are really HOT together....
oh by the way, I am a Buddhist..which is why I asked the universe to help me....we believe that things will work themselves out...that you can't reach out for stuff that you want beause it leads to poor choices and then to trouble later on..you have to make yourself happy..look within