A lot of people don't understand the woman's behavior, it's not weird to me that she did this, it's weird to me that people don't understand to be honest
If you want to get to the heart of woman, what makes them different than men, it's their power hunger. Sexy women wake up to power hunger much earlier than men do because as cute little girls they command power already, they go please daddy please please can i have a pony

, they turn parents against each other with their affection, they already begin to undersatnd the value of deception. By the tiem they are 12-13 they are already getting gawked at by men, they go to their friends house and they get all the attention while their brother just stands there, then by 14-15 they get looked at sexually, men make eye contact with them because htey can help it. Ever notice how some women's gazes can give u an instant boner? U don't think this happens to women too? Of course it does, women spend all morning in front of the mirror then go in the street and their mood depends on whether they get eye fucked walking down the street, it wakes up their clitoris and theyre horny all day.
A woman's ability to fool a man means power to her, she keeps one man next to her in bed and she sleeps in the comfort of owning him with a web of lies, she keeps anothe rman somwhere else with the comfort of owning him becase she has his kid... u gotta understand that to women everything has a secret value called leverage, a kid is leverage, a wedding ring is leverage, her beauty if leverage. And finally the extent to which they allow themselves to be power hungry is determined by how wel they can hide that power hunger. When you get interveiwed, do u tell the guy one day u hope to be his boss? no no, u gotta play the game, u gotta hide ur ambition to some extent, that is what women do with their innocent angel eyes and their little smiles and their innocent act.
That's why she sent the man emails about how she love dhim then turned around and told u she really loves you, OP, because she is a little emperess about to lose her empire, she keeps it together with a web of lies.
And the question of how can she do this to her child, how could she not? Child = leverage to women, to men child = angel because men are stupid and honest and when women say thsi child is an angel they believe the women like idiots, but to women child = leverage and the more value this child has the more leverage she has, that's why they make men worship children.
OP, you got yourself into this situation by being weak before. I don;t mean that as an insult, i mean that you let your woman control you, you were not strong enough to look at her affection and love and say no, this is a weakness. You letting this kid own real estate in ur mind, you letting this kid get in the way of you leaving this wman is another similar weakness. Be strong now and get what's yours, leave her with whatever u feel she should have, then go somewhere else and start ur own little family and this time be fucking strong and start setting bounderies for women and not lettign them own ur heart