Prime muscle .. I do agree.. I can't imagine what they are going through mentally.. When does one,who is gay, go to that next level and want to change their actual sex? Is this a mental disorder so to speak? I know one in my town who has had the "full Monty"in regards to the operation.. I was told by " her" that she always felt ha.t she was a women growing up.. But again, when does on cross over from just being gay to feeling that they are somehow in the wrong body sexually.? And again, is this a mental disorder ect.. May never know.. But I will say that frm the limited experience I have seeing this it appears that those i question do have "issues" that need to be resolved other than gender confusion..
I don't want to be redundant here, but your post warrants a reply.
Like you, I cannot imagine what someone with this issue goes through. It must be like a living hell. As I mentioned before, being transgendered does not necessarily equate to being gay. Some transgendered folks were straight both before and after they transitioned in as much as they were attracted to the opposite sex prior to transitioning and are still attracted to what used to be the opposite sex after transitioning (which one could argue, makes them now gay).
I don't believe medical science has this shit figured out yet. As was the case in the book Middlesex, this person was born neutral so to speak because they were essentially both sexes. The book is not only an interesting read, but is explores the anguish a child goes though when they are a hermaphrodite. The character in this book actually seems to have his/her mental act together better then the parents or the doctors who offer what they believe is the best fix....when maybe this person wasn't broken at all, just different from the norm.
When I was a teenager I read Christine Jorgensen's autobiography. Not being a psychologist or for that matter having any expertise in mental health, I felt like she convinced herself that she was a girl trapped in a boy's body. Becoming who she believed she was, was an obsession that she eventually achieved. There is a passage in the book when she is on the floor under the piano and looking up she sees her mothers vagina and thinks that is what she is supposed to look like. Never having such an experience, I found it difficult to comprehend how someone can not see themselves for who they are physically. My thought was that she talked herself into believing she was supposed to be a woman.
Men and women are different in many ways besides just physically. I truly believe women often have a different temperament then do men. I also suspect women and men are more alike then we realize and that social influences often exaggerate their differences. My mom was an extremely attractive woman when she was young. She was completely man crazy and there was nothing gay about her. Yet, she was strong and domineering in ways that are often associated with males. If she had been born a male, she probably would have been a stereotypical alpha male. I doubt she ever considered that she was born the wrong gender. It seems very likely that kids who manifest the characteristics of the opposite gender are driven to assume that role on some kind of permanent basis. For example the little "sissy" boy who plays with dolls or the "Tomboy" girl who can and will tackle a boy for possession of the football are often ridiculed for being different. I don't doubt that this can influence how one feels about themselves as an adult and that it contributes of feelings of gender confusion.
