Just became a pops to a baby girl on christmas morning at 6am. 9 pound girl. I cried like a baby when she came out. Not sure why I got so emotional but I sure did.
Guys I am not going to lie I am very tired. When does it get better?
Congrats! Just learn to nap, bro... you will... by force lol
Seriously, I feel more rested taking two hours naps a few times a day. Sleep at night, wake up to feed the baby (wife pumps, I try feeding at night because I feel like a guilty fucker lol) and then we go back to bed. Our baby is thankfully awesome and sleeps really well throughout the night. But hit up those naps for sure.
And don't worry about crying. Everyone's entitled to have a pussy moment when their child is born.
my wife has implants and it killed her production,devestated her..3rd one got at least enough to start his immune system..
Sorry to hear about that, bro. My wife's got implants but it thankfully didn't mess with her production. We have great lactation consultants so she was able to get a lot of help. She had some problems at the start but it's good now.
I wasn't thrilled about the in laws staying at our place for two weeks but they have been helpful. A little intrusive but extremely helpful to say the least. I suggest you welcome this notion
We didn't have anyone stay with us but we visited family daily and they dropped off food for us. At home, that's your domain. It might feel like a good idea at first, but if you're on tren right now... you'll probably rip someone a new asshole when they overstep their bounds. I almost killed my grandma when she showed up unexpectedly and stayed with us for a few days. We had to politely kick her out because we couldn't find our groove with her hovering around. It sounds brutal (I love my grandma a ton) but you guys need to figure things out on your terms. The additional help is awesome, but it's still you and the wifey and the baby at the end of the day.
Invite family to bring some cooked meals over, help with errands and things like that. But generally speaking, at least from what I've experienced and seen with friends, home is your domain. People should ALWAYS ask before coming over, keep hand sanitizer and don't be afraid to ask them if they've washed their hands first (better safe than sorry) and don't be afraid to be selfish and guard your child. Sleeplessness can catch up with you and if can feel like you're completely drunk at times. I got hit hard at the 4 week mark and still feel like my head is spinning (especially because it's the holiday season).
This is only my advice though. There's no clear cut answer. If it feels like it's working for you guys, run with it. If it doesn't jive, don't force it and find something that feels better. All the best!!