Hey spike how do you achieve physical excellence WITHOUT making it the focus of your life. Surely the number of people who want to be in great shape is much less than the number who want to be personal trainers, pro athletes, or life coaches.
Is there any hope for us ?

of course
its not about everyone else, its about you
don't get overwhelmed and think its shit you have to start ," day 1 from here on out" -- no
its subtle changes because you obviously have priorites like job, wife, whatever, so fitness will always be there for you to chip away at
start by eating better, something as simple as a shake a day or a bowl of cream of rice - but make it routine, when your energy levels increase - milk that shit - workout or find a way to expend that energy , its not always about the weights - unless you want a specific look - physical excellence is something you must always be aware of , not grinding away or anything, but shit like just sitting up right or try not sitting on your ass for more than an hour , seriously tho - you think your caveman grandfather sat on his ass a lot ? fck no he was killing fckn tigers with his hands