Make Matt C sexual again

[Matt]

I agree with Hankins and the others who say you just gotta go do it.  Whether it's Tinder or one of those sites that matches you up with more info or going out places where you can meet people.  There is Zero chance Matt can't find plenty, zero.  He's smart and works out, time and numbers is all it takes.  I think it was Matt himself who said somewhere in a post long ago "All we have is math".  Get the numbers and math on your side.

I'm giving everything some thought - believe me.

But the reason why this destroyed me is because I invested SO MUCH into this 2018 woman, and it was NEVER ENOUGH.

"Do you think spending money on you entitles you to hold my hand?"

Really? I DIDN'T BUY THIS BITCH A STEAK DINNER AND ASK TO FUCK. I spent $10,000 on her by then, including buying her a queen size bed to replace from her ex who supposedly took an axe to her bed and destroyed it! That seems like a meaningful gift does it not?

And EVERY WOMAN I SPOKE TO SAID I DID INDEED DESERVE TO ASK TO MOVE TO INTIMACY.

But she had "PTSD" from her ex [I actually do believe this], and my threshold/patience is high.

Now I simply don't feel I can trust allowing women to take the initiative in moving forward - and I ALWAYS let women come to me. I just loathe the notion of rape or pushing myself on women.

But now that my standard has been destroyed, what can I do?

Yeah, maybe Tinder - but to be honest, I've never used a dating site [I've never had to].

[Matt]

better than avg looks will only get him so far. once he start talking, he'll talk himself out of sex. most women will notice his 'condition' right off the bat. what woman wants to fuck Rainman or Forest Gump? even if they have a gym membership?

The first picture is old [over ten years], but the next two are much newer [and still how my physique looks today].

I have never found it hard to get women. I feel like I have the minimum required looks to open the door.

I mean - what do we need? An average or better face + decent arms?

I don't think we need to be Brad Pitt to get laid.

I am at a point now where I think I will need to start dying my hair - it's not noticeable in this picture, but my left side is getting bad.

Throughout this whole period, I've maintained an Excel diet, and - with great difficulty - managed to find gyms that allowed me to train despite being unvaccinated.

I do think - and Getbiggers may be aware of this - that if you keep in good shape, your body can make up for your aging face.

I still have a young looking body. My weight right now is 173.6-lb, and was about the same in the photo here [maybe more like 170-171].

But I'm a completely lost and broken man.

And now that the Canadian government has gotten us used to lockdowns, I suspect they are here to stay. Time will tell - but I did not handle lockdowns very well, and if my gym owner loses his second gym, it will be hard for me to find another one of that quality that allows unvaccinated people to train.

So in addition to my personal issues which are slowing getting better - I have political instability and a far-left Prime Minister who admires "China's basic dictatorship".

It's just not what I need right now. Hopefully, we don't go back to lockdown here.

[ESFitness]

Dude - you seem pretty smart.

So tell me - what is the benefit of RELATIONSHIPS?

I have tried TWICE in my life to be in actual RELATIONSHIPS.

Once was age 18 [2000] - and what the fuck did I know then? But it was traumatizing, and I think my brain shut off for relationships.

Then I tried again at age 36 [2018]. And by then, I felt I to roughly knew what to do.

In fairness, this bitch followed me around more than ANY woman ever [even if it was just for my money].

But she lied about many things. I can address some of the major ones, but here is a question:

Is it ever ok to hide a 5-year opiate addiction? Shouldn't ANYONE disclose such a thing? Had I known she was ADDICTED to them physically [as opposed to just an occasional user, as she claimed], that would have changed EVERYTHING.

Also, had she told me she fucked 39 guys, I wouldn't have been so delicate, and - given I have a high threshold for tolerance/patience - I waited, and allowed her to make any moves [which i ALWAYS do for women - women MUST come to me, and I will NEVER make exceptions to that, given #MeToo witch hunters are INSANE].

In hindsight, I should have simply had a start: if we're not doing couples things within 30 days, I'd go back to my other girlfriends.

It's in large part my fault for being in love.

But I was lied to - and in big ways!

Does YOU have a FOOLPROOF method for identifying feminists or liars?

Does anyone?

The only one I can think of is this:

Apparently, people can't lie about who they are for more than 90 days. Because the lies gradually get exposed. However, I've had some examples that lasted longer.

Perhaps I need to post a photo of the woman I had after [she's ****ING hot! She's ****ING sexy].

In comparison, the other one was ****ING ugly. She's ****ING busted]. 

...

If no one can give me a way to spot feminists, then I can't risk this happening again.

As for sex, that's fine. In time. But not right now. Although I'm still having sex once every three months. And I was just asked, so maybe I will. But I literally don't understand relationships.

Many people are in miserable relationships.

I find that people in general are best in small doses. I know I'm not the only one who thinks that...

yea, you're how old? and only had 2 relationships?

i forget how many relationships i've had. but i know my life is better with a girl than without one, and over the years i've learned how to end things quickly and stay and suffer. relationships should be mutually beneficial. you have an inability to relate to others, an inability to communicate your feelings and understand others feelings... that will always prevent you from having a relationship. girls will notice things about you and may choose to let you fuck them once or twice, while they look for a 'normal' guy. and the girls who WILL remain in a relationship with you are gonna be the girls you don't want... girls with 39+ sexual partners. 39+ dicks down their throat. what kind of girl would 'settle down' with a guy like you? think about it... it's a girl who no other guy wants, so she'll settle for you... and you'll find out stuff about her, later on, and not want her. that's why you end up frustrated. and blame the women. it's not them. it's you.

i've been through rehab. i've been through therapy. peeled back the onion. hell, during furlough during the shutdown, i was livestreaming everynight with 1500 viewers worldwide doing mostly relationship Q & A's. usually the problem is you, you just don't get it. there have been whores for thousands of years. you, me, and every other man has been disappointed by a girl he thought was something other than what we believed. get over it. realize you're A LOT different than what any woman who meets you is expecting, so don't be surprised when the only ones who stay are super FUCKED UP, and nobody else wants. you're both kinda bottom of the barrel. hell, you should be happy for them. or else, just resign to jerking off everyday for the rest of your life.

[ESFitness]

The first picture is old [over ten years], but the next two are much newer [and still how my physique looks today].

I have never found it hard to get women. I feel like I have the minimum required looks to open the door.

I mean - what do we need? An average or better face + decent arms?

I don't think we need to be Brad Pitt to get laid.

I am at a point now where I think I will need to start dying my hair - it's not noticeable in this picture, but my left side is getting bad.

Throughout this whole period, I've maintained an Excel diet, and - with great difficulty - managed to find gyms that allowed me to train despite being unvaccinated.

I do think - and Getbiggers may be aware of this - that if you keep in good shape, your body can make up for your aging face.

I still have a young looking body. My weight right now is 173.6-lb, and was about the same in the photo here [maybe more like 170-171].

But I'm a completely lost and broken man.

And now that the Canadian government has gotten us used to lockdowns, I suspect they are here to stay. Time will tell - but I did not handle lockdowns very well, and if my gym owner loses his second gym, it will be hard for me to find another one of that quality that allows unvaccinated people to train.

So in addition to my personal issues which are slowing getting better - I have political instability and a far-left Prime Minister who admires "China's basic dictatorship".

It's just not what I need right now. Hopefully, we don't go back to lockdown here.

it doesn't matter what you look like.

it will only get your foot in the door.

it's everything after that... how you act, what you say, etc.... that will keep you 'in the door'. your social weirdness and all that, is gonna turn alll the 'good girls' , the ones you'd actally want to have a relationship with away, because they have their own 'higher value' and can find a guy who looks just as good, without all the intellectual/social issues you bring. so you'll be stuck with girls you view as beneath you. sucks, i know.. but you gotta realize what you really bring to the table, vs other guys, and why should a woman choose you over someone else.

[FitnessFrenzy]

you have an inability to relate to others, an inability to communicate your feelings and understand others feelings... that will always prevent you from having a relationship. girls will notice things about you and may choose to let you fuck them once or twice, while they look for a 'normal' guy.

and the girls who WILL remain in a relationship with you are gonna be the girls you don't want... girls with 39+ sexual partners. 39+ dicks down their throat. what kind of girl would 'settle down' with a guy like you? think about it... it's a girl who no other guy wants, so she'll settle for you... and you'll find out stuff about her, later on, and not want her. that's why you end up frustrated. and blame the women. it's not them. it's you.

I agree.

[FitnessFrenzy]

it doesn't matter what you look like. it will only get your foot in the door.

I was always negatively surprised, when I was younger, that I did not pull more ass from being tanned and muscular, as an isolated factor. I got a bit older and I worked more on being charming, communication skills, getting money and forming a career. The women you want are much, much more attracted to the latter than just a pretty and muscular physique, if that is your main selling point, like it is the case with Matt, unfortunately.

I guess the frustrations of not getting a lot of ass, when you have a great physique, but a poor personality, could also be called the Vince Basile syndrome.

[Vince B]

I was always negatively surprised, when I was younger, that I did not pull more ass from being tanned and muscular, as an isolated factor. I got a bit older and I worked more on being charming, communication skills, getting money and forming a career. The women you want are much, much more attracted to the latter than just a pretty and muscular physique, if that is your main selling point, like it is the case with Matt, unfortunately.

I guess the frustrations of not getting a lot of ass, when you have a great physique, but a poor personality, could also be called the Vince Basile syndrome.

Lol. You have absolutely no idea who I am and what I have done!

[karasan]

There are so many harsh realities in this thread, fck.
I can relate some of the ESFitness' bitter diagnosis.

[Kwon]

MAKE MATT C SENSUAL AGAIN!

[bhank]

Dude - you seem pretty smart.

So tell me - what is the benefit of RELATIONSHIPS?

I have tried TWICE in my life to be in actual RELATIONSHIPS.

Once was age 18 [2000] - and what the fuck did I know then? But it was traumatizing, and I think my brain shut off for relationships.

Then I tried again at age 36 [2018]. And by then, I felt I to roughly knew what to do.

In fairness, this bitch followed me around more than ANY woman ever [even if it was just for my money].

But she lied about many things. I can address some of the major ones, but here is a question:

Is it ever ok to hide a 5-year opiate addiction? Shouldn't ANYONE disclose such a thing? Had I known she was ADDICTED to them physically [as opposed to just an occasional user, as she claimed], that would have changed EVERYTHING.

Also, had she told me she fucked 39 guys, I wouldn't have been so delicate, and - given I have a high threshold for tolerance/patience - I waited, and allowed her to make any moves [which i ALWAYS do for women - women MUST come to me, and I will NEVER make exceptions to that, given #MeToo witch hunters are INSANE].

In hindsight, I should have simply had a start: if we're not doing couples things within 30 days, I'd go back to my other girlfriends.

It's in large part my fault for being in love.

But I was lied to - and in big ways!

Does YOU have a FOOLPROOF method for identifying feminists or liars?

Does anyone?

The only one I can think of is this:

Apparently, people can't lie about who they are for more than 90 days. Because the lies gradually get exposed. However, I've had some examples that lasted longer.

Perhaps I need to post a photo of the woman I had after [she's ****ING hot! She's ****ING sexy].

In comparison, the other one was ****ING ugly. She's ****ING busted]. 

...

If no one can give me a way to spot feminists, then I can't risk this happening again.

As for sex, that's fine. In time. But not right now. Although I'm still having sex once every three months. And I was just asked, so maybe I will. But I literally don't understand relationships.

Many people are in miserable relationships.

I find that people in general are best in small doses. I know I'm not the only one who thinks that...

It is 2022 they are all feminist. The problem is I don't think you understand the definition of the word. You can be a conservative and a feminist. All a feminist means is they believe in equal rights for women that is it. It doesn't mean they want to oppress you and chop off your dick.

[King Shizzo]

ESFitness must be in the hospital again. He likes to take advantage of the free WiFi.

[joswift]

ESFitness must be in the hospital again. He likes to take advantage of the free WiFi.

 

Not only that hes giving Matt relationship advice on how to get a "keeper"
This from a drug dealer ex con with a record for firearms who spends lockdown fucking women on Onlyfans...
Yep, Im sure plenty of down to earth grounded women are flocking to settle down with him.

[FitnessFrenzy]

Not only that hes giving Matt relationship advice on how to get a "keeper"
This from a drug dealer ex con with a record for firearms who spends lockdown fucking women on Onlyfans...
Yep, Im sure plenty of down to earth grounded women are flocking to settle down with him.

ESFitness also has extensive knowledge in teaching deep throat technique to his conquests. I think ESF can train Matt to get laid quite well. ESF made a lot of sound dating comments in this thread.

[BBSSchlemiel]

It is 2022 they are all feminist. The problem is I don't think you understand the definition of the word. You can be a conservative and a feminist. All a feminist means is they believe in equal rights for women that is it. It doesn't mean they want to oppress you and chop off your dick.

Have you ever read literature of leading feminists and feminist forerunners and took notice of their actions and involvement?

Men should be wary of:
1) male feminists
2) men who say “I married my best friend”
3) men who say, “women rule” and “women kick ass” and “women are amazing!”.
4) men who get all giddy over female careerists.

[bhank]

Have you ever read literature of leading feminists and feminist forerunners and took notice of their actions and involvement?

Men should be wary of:
1) male feminists
2) men who say “I married my best friend”
3) men who say, “women rule” and “women kick ass” and “women are amazing!”.
4) men who get all giddy over female careerists.

Who the fuck says that? Again feminism just means equal rights for women it doesn't mean women rule anything. I like Al Bundy and the No Maam coalition. I despise the feminization of society. I believe estrogenic contamination of the water supply has caused the pussification of men. However yes absolutely women should be able to vote, own property, and work so yeah I guess I am a feminist by definition since I don't want to oppress them. That doesn't mean I bow down to shit but yeah my mother was a single working Mom you have to respect women.  But fuck no I don't read literature about leading man hating bull dyke lesbians from the 1950s I am a fucking man. But that is not what feminisim means it doesn't mean they hate men or are a leftist. It means they believe in equal rights for women and don't want to wear a fucking hinjob mask hood and walk 3 feet behind a man when out in public.

[wes]

I`ve been down and out,homeless and a hopeless alcoholic and druggie....you are NEVER down and out unless you allow yourself to be and sit in your own shit and wallow in self pity....get up and be your own man..........if I could do it so can you or anyone for that matter.

GET BUSY TODAY....LEAVE THE PAST IN THE REAR VIEW MIROR BRO.

Go out and fuck some whore you dont need to marry her for Christs sake.

[BBSSchlemiel]

Who the fuck says that? Again feminism just means equal rights for women it doesn't mean women rule anything. I like Al Bundy and the No Maam coalition. I despise the feminization of society. I believe estrogenic contamination of the water supply has caused the pussification of men. However yes absolutely women should be able to vote, own property, and work so yeah I guess I am a feminist by definition since I don't want to oppress them. That doesn't mean I bow down to shit but yeah my mother was a single working Mom you have to respect women.  But fuck no I don't read literature about leading man hating bull dyke lesbians from the 1950s I am a fucking man. But that is not what feminisim means it doesn't mean they hate men or are a leftist. It means they believe in equal rights for women and don't want to wear a fucking hinjob mask hood and walk 3 feet behind a man when out in public.

For some reason male feminists routinely bring up Sharia law. In the Anglosphere , before large-scale feminism, women never wore such garb. They were expected not to dress and act like whores though.

[Kwon]

I`ve been down and out,homeless and a hopeless alcoholic and druggie....you are NEVER down and out unless you allow yourself to be and sit in your own shit and wallow in self pity....get up and be your own man..........if I could do it so can you or anyone for that matter.

GET BUSY TODAY....LEAVE THE PAST IN THE REAR VIEW MIROR BRO.

Go out and fuck some whore you dont need to marry her for Christs sake.

Don't have sex before marriage Wesley!

[Matt]

Have you ever read literature of leading feminists and feminist forerunners and took notice of their actions and involvement?

Men should be wary of:
1) male feminists
2) men who say “I married my best friend”
3) men who say, “women rule” and “women kick ass” and “women are amazing!”.
4) men who get all giddy over female careerists.

I also think WOMEN should be cautious about male feminists!

Presumably they do it to get laid.

As for feminists caring about "women's rights", as bhank mentioned: what rights do men have that women don't have?

My issue with feminists is that they actually believe women get paid either 72 cents or 78 cents on the dollar compared to men.

OBVIOUSLY WOMEN WHO BELIEVE THIS LIE WILL BELIEVE THAT MEN OWE THEM SOMETHING!

If anything, women are PRIVILEGED in our society. Men get paid more than women because they WORK MORE. So for feminists to have the AUDACITY to claim that women are oppressed in the workplace when men only get paid more because they WORK MORE [and are more willing to travel for work, etc]. So it's not only NOT true that there is a "wage gap", and it's not only a LIE - it's a lie that is the OPPOSITE OF THE TRUTH. And that is the WORST KIND OF LIE.

ONLY A FEMINIST would have made that comment "Do you think spending money on me entitles you to hold my hand [by that point - $10,000]?"

FUCKING OF COURSE IT ENTITLED ME TO THAT. Every WOMAN I talked to said that!

As I said, it's not like I bought her a steak dinner and asked to fuck her! I was hugely invested.

And I would have NEVER TOLERATED THAT had I not been in love!

I would have said - "You don't seem interested. And since there are 5-15 OTHER WOMEN I COULD BE FUCKING RIGHT NOW - NEXT!!!"

Get out of my house, and come back when you are DTF.

But every time it got to that point, she desperately tried to keep me around [$$].

I don't have time to deal with women "deciding" if they are into me [after she already explicitly told me yes]. Either THEY ARE or THEY ARE NOT [for most of my adult life, most women have been].

That's why I DO NOT - AND WILL NEVER - deal with games, or hoping that attraction "grows". I ONLY deal with women who are sure things - PRECISELY TO PREVENT SHIT LIKE THIS FROM HAPPENING.

And because my preference is to let women COME TO ME at their comfort level. I don't ever want to risk initiating sex with women.

That's partially why I've only had sex with 26 women [and had about an equal number I had midway sex with] - because THEY had to make the moves on me.

I don't give two fucking shits if women want to be "taken" by a man, or "dominated" [LMAO - like any man isn't capable of physically dominating any woman by nature].

And now, I've lost this standard. Now I feel like I NEED to tell women "If we aren't fucking by such and such date, we can't hang out."

ANYONE should know it's wrong to go to a person who is extremely invested in you and let them be so invested in you, allowing YOU to dictate the pace of things, and to not take advantage. Just like any MAN who allows a woman to cook and clean for him, and accept blowjobs from a woman, but never kiss her or something, would OBVIOUSLY be a complete asshole.

I once told two younger and hotter women what happened to me, and they were over one day with the bitch in question here, and they looked at their cellphones the whole time. They were both so mad at her for taking advantage of me.

And she then asked if I told them about us, and said "That makes me look like the villain." I replied "What do you mean? I just told them exactly what happened. Do you believe me that I was completely honest about us?" And she said "Yes, but it makes me look like the villain."

BECAUSE SHE WAS THE FUCKING VILLAIN. The exploitative piece of shit! And she KNEW it! It's not like she thought I misrepresented her. She KNEW that I told the full truth.

This would have NEVER HAPPENED if I wasn't in love for the SECOND [and LAST] time in my life.

She required to read her fucking mind, and sometimes do things that were the OPPOSITE of what she presented. The fucking insanoid!

And with something like 1 in 8, or as many as 1 in 5 Canadian women being feminists, WHY WOULD I TAKE THESE RISKS MOVING FORWARD?

And feminists don't give a hang about men beating the shit out of women in women's combat sports.

Feminists are utterly useless. And unless someone tells me how to avoid them in the future, you can count me out.

Hey guys: more [fishy] pussy for you...right?

[Matt]

Don't have sex before marriage Wesley!

Have you seen B. Hank's squeeze?

Very nice looking family oriented woman, who is not a moron from what I can tell.

[wes]

Don't have sex before marriage Wesley!

Heaven forbid. LOL

[wes]

Geezus reading Matts posts are like reading "War And Peace".....ain`t nobody got time for dat shit.  LOL

[King Shizzo]

Don't have sex before marriage Wesley!

Wes's marriage was pre arranged by his family. They gave his bride's family 30 goats, frankincense and myrrh.

[Matt]

Geezus reading Matts posts are like reading "War And Peace".....ain`t nobody got time for dat shit.  LOL

Yeah, lol.

But I need to get over this. I can't go on day after day not wishing to exist.

I need to somehow regain the ability to trust people, so I can interact with others again.

I am almost certain I will never love a woman again. And I don't want to. But HOW THE FUCK DID THIS HAPPEN TO ME? Anyone can say what they want about here - I am up for any criticism that I can learn from, and use to improve myself - but I am a man who had my shit together.

Then this happened.

And I still don't know how to prevent it.

The only thing I learned is - don't fall in love. You tolerate too much when you do. Compound that with falling in love with a lying slut feminist, and then this happened to me.

Had it been a decent woman who had the RESPECT to simply disclose her drug addiction status, or not deny her slut past, I would have never had feelings for her.

Only physical attraction.

And that would have been fine.

Love made the difference, and this must NEVER HAPPEN AGAIN.

And Canada's society closing down for two years didn't help either.

I just hope we go back to normal now.

[King Shizzo]

Yeah, lol.

But I need to get over this. I can't go on day after day not wishing to exist.

I need to somehow regain the ability to trust people, so I can interact with others again.

I am almost certain I will never love a woman again. And I don't want to. But HOW THE FUCK DID THIS HAPPEN TO ME? Anyone can say what they want about here - I am up for any criticism that I can learn from, and use to improve myself - but I am a man who had my shit together.

Then this happened.

And I still don't know how to prevent it.

The only thing I learned is - don't fall in love. You tolerate too much when you do. Compound that with falling in love with a lying slut feminist, and then this happened to me.

Had it been a decent woman who had the RESPECT to simply disclose her drug addiction status, or not deny her slut past, I would have never had feelings for her.

Only physical attraction.

And that would have been fine.

Love made the difference, and this must NEVER HAPPEN AGAIN.

And Canada's society closing down for two years didn't help either.

I just hope we go back to normal now.

"We"?