You are welcome. We all want you to succeed and become happier. 
Thank you for saying that, FitnessFrenzy. It means a lot. Honestly, I don't need compliments, but the nasty woman I was with said we need about six compliments for every one insult [which sounds about right to me]. I just wish she applied that...
I don't even know where I'd be without Getbig. It's like a flicker of sanity in an insane world. All the characters are great - we have character and we ARE characters!
Even some of the people who have a problem with me have said things I can learn from [exception: Walter Sobchak...the only person I had to block on here, aside from Viking Power 15 years ago].
Phantom Spunker said something about me which was superficially insulting, but was bang on:
I don't go through with plans. I WANT to settle my issues with the police by registered letter, but I haven't done that yet.
I want to get my French back, but I haven't yet.
I want to get back on YouTube, but I haven't yet.
I want to even maybe get a job and work ~20 hours a week, but I haven't yet.
I want to RUN A PROPER STEROID CYCLE [my first in over 15 years], but I haven't yet.
I put SO MUCH into this woman - so much time, energy, money, and most of all, MY LOVE, and this was literally the only female friend I had in 10+ years at the time I didn't fuck. And THAT'S why I let women dictate the pace [because it was never a problem before].
WHAT ARE THE ODDS?? I fell in love with EXACTLY the worst type of woman.
Most women I have spoken to said they would never allow a man to invest in them out of love, and collapse mentally, not knowing he was used or not. They would have moved to intimacy, or not let a man invest. I made my feelings CLEAR. I specifically asked if she was into me, and she said YES. As I said - I don't take chances.
If only I knew that the laundry list of bad boyfriends she had was because SHE ONLY DATES WEAK MEN TO CONTROL THEM, I would have realized that it wouldn't have worked out.
But to my credit, I EXPLICITLY ASKED HER if she was into me enough to try dating, and she said yes. I EXPLICITLY ASKED HER if she was a feminist, and she said no. She made me feel like she was sexually chaste, when she actually fucked 39 men [and told me that while intoxicated]. She told me "Just so you know - I used opiates before", RATHER THAN JUST ****ING tell me she was addicted for five years already!
So in fairness, I was lied to.
And I was in love. And that must NEVER HAPPEN AGAIN.
But on Monday, I realized I hadn't even THOUGHT ABOUT SEX for 7-8 days! My normal average is about five.
That's when I realized - I'm still so traumatized that my brain has shut off my dick.
My brain is telling me that no matter HOW HARD I TRY, I WILL FAIL, because I loved this woman so much and put so much into her [+ "Sunk Cost Fallacy"] that now my brain is telling me "Your very best effort will fail - and you can even lose it all...so don't try at all."
And that's why I don't do anything but sit on my couch [plus as much training as I legally can + time with my kids].
Because I DO NOT want to risk loving another woman, and her bankrupting me or something. I don't mind working - but I would hate to HAVE TO WORK to make ends meet. So I desperately want to protect my savings.
And now I'm afraid to take risks.
IF THE BITCH JUST TOLD ME SHE COULDN'T DATE ME BECAUSE I'M RACIST ONLINE AND HER HIPPIE FRIENDS DIDN'T APPROVE OF ME, THIS WOULD HAVE BEEN AVOIDED. EVERYONE KNOWS I'M "RACIST". I NEVER HID THIS.
She had NO EXCUSE not to know, and no right to expect me to change something I didn't want to change!
Nor did she even DIRECTLY TELL ME THAT. But in the end, she couldn't control me, and that was the other big issue [+ the "racism"].
Or: if I hadn't been in love...this would have been avoided.
I won't be making that mistake again...
It makes me happy to know that loving the wrong woman has taken out much stronger men than myself: