I think marriage (basically just a very long term relationship) runs into the trouble of people growing apart and wanting different things. This usually boils down to finances. You aren't the same person you were 5 years ago, and thus ever evolving. This is where the "stuck in a rut" delves from. People don't accept change very well, and this creates envy, bitterness, etc. Also if someone pulls a complete fuck up are they ever really forgiven, and if so, nobody ever forgets. This builds resentment, once that kicks in the relationship ends its apex and slides downward.
Good post!
Major changes in my previous 3 wives was why I ended up getting divorced.
For example, the first 2 wanted kids, AFTER we got married BUT agreed not to, going in.
It amazed me how they just assumed I'd change and want kids. I didn't and never did.
I don't understand guys that constantly cheat on their wife.
If you want to screw around, that's fine, just get divorced, be single and live on your own terms.
Living a lie , is a life of quiet desperation.
In my opinion, getting married to a broke ass girl with no career today is a dead end street.
With no kids and BOTH working in a decent paying career, if divorce comes, you split things up fairly and move on with minimal drama.